what do I do

[Guest]

I'm in a 17 year marriage and have gotten re-married for some reason the proof of service was not filed so technically I am now married to 2 different people have one more month to annul the 2nd marriage, I am absent currently from the 2nd marriage and seeing my spouse from the first marriage as he has entered into recovery AA my 2nd spouse has also entered into recovery but I haven't made contact with him because I really love my first spouse but now there is wreckage because I covered the first spouse's name tattooed on my chest and put my second husband's name above the cover up so when I see my first husband he see's this, I don't know if I should make the first husband pay for the cover up and annulment since technically I blame him for this happening if he hadn't done what he did drugging drinking vacating the kids and me I wouldn't be in this situation I told the first husband if I hadn't moved on with my life I also told him I had no plan on returning to his direction it was kind of a double coincidence of events that let me to believe maybe it was a sign that I was suppose to contact my first husband so here I now am with this complex difficult situation I told my first spouse I would get a cover up and annul the marriage but now that I feel he is not doing some writing to meet me half way on this marriage by setting up counseling I feel like I don't want to annul it but rather if he waits to long and my second marriage becomes legit I want to divorce him instead, I am confused as to what I should do ....Do I annul it because I need to keep my word when I said that irregardless of what he's doing or not doing to put effort into this marriage?

[Guest]

you need to look at what relationship is healthier, the one with your first spouse (which does not seem the case) or the one with you second. You need to pray about it. You need to make sure your kids feel loved, first and formost that they are not enduring any emotional trials because of silly, trivial things. A tattoo? who cares about a tattoo? why would you rush to cover up your tattoo only to put another man's name there???? Maybe you need to seperate yourself from both of these men and concentrate on making yourself a healthier person.