longlegzs80 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I am a plain jane. If I wear makeup it is mascara only and lip gloss. When I get dressed, my wardrobe consists of jeans, and baggy shirts. All other clothes that are nice are all tight. I want a change in my appearance because I find I do get the looks from guys, some go out of their way to smile but then nothing. No conversation, no trying on their part or mine and I like to have that change. I smile, I will talk if they talk to me, or if I feel confident enough to talk to the ones I am attracted to, but it seems like that doesn't happen anymore. What makes a guy go WOW, I need to go over and talk to her since I got the opportunity? Guys, help a lady out.
Admiral Thrawn Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I am a plain jane. If I wear makeup it is mascara only and lip gloss. When I get dressed, my wardrobe consists of jeans, and baggy shirts. All other clothes that are nice are all tight. I want a change in my appearance because I find I do get the looks from guys, some go out of their way to smile but then nothing. No conversation, no trying on their part or mine and I like to have that change. I smile, I will talk if they talk to me, or if I feel confident enough to talk to the ones I am attracted to, but it seems like that doesn't happen anymore. What makes a guy go WOW, I need to go over and talk to her since I got the opportunity? Guys, help a lady out. Well, some guys are shy or are incel (involuntary celebate - have issues with approaching girls and talking to them in general due to a low self-esteem, lack of experience, and lack of confidence). For me, if I perceive a girl is friendly and affable, and emotionally available, then I may feel more comfortable to approach her. It has nothing to do with looks or how she is going to appear. Perhaps if you learned to give out the right signals, and look available, then that would work out for some guys. If any guy shows an interest, make sure you wink back, go closer to his physical proximity, smile back at him, or say 'hi' to him if he smiles at you. The point is reinforcement. The guy is taking the rejection risk, whether it is eye contact, a smile, or a hi, your job is to reinforce it like crazy to show any risk he is taking will be rewarded.
monkey00 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 generally for me, friendliness from a woman is very attractive. When a girl is nice to me, as in doing thoughtful things for me when i dont expect it; complimenting me...indicates to me that she's interested. maintain eye contact, smile and say hi is the easiest thing you can do to show a guy you're friendly and possibly interested. Body language speaks a lot also, which you should keep in mind.
qnmc Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Ditto on what the Admiral said, guys are taking the rejection risk. The best way to make me feel comfortable is to laugh at my jokes and make me feel funny. Even if the guy's first couple cracks are terrible (we get nervous), laughing at them without thinking he's getting a courtesy laugh will build his confidence so that his next jokes will all come out naturally... and very funny. I go to Askmen.com to figure you women out. The counterpart to this site for women I believe is ivillage.com. It might help you figure us out. As for your look, it says you're from NY, not sure if this is NYC or NY state. If you're in a major metro area, for a makeup change go to your local MAC store or a sheek department store. As for clothing, pick up a copy of vogue and/or cosmo and hit your local Banana Republic, Arden B, Bebe and/or that sheek department store. The sexiest look I see these days on a lady are well fitting jeans (7's seem to be popular), with heels, and a form-fitting top of some sort (doesnt mean tight, just fits them well). For me I like an elegant, understated sexy look... not overtly sexy tight fitting clothes (ie no need for spandex).
SmoochieFace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 What makes a guy go WOW... The only time I go *wow* is when a woman approaches me. I don't approach women... some guys just don't do it. You may want to consider approaching those men YOU find interesting.
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