A lonely summer ahead?

[drumguy18]

I'm a 3rd year college student who recently was offered a job over the summer in my college town, which is about one hour away from where I grew up (and where I know the most people). Every summer before now, I've moved back to my home town and lived with my parents, and spent the time mostly with high school friends who went to different universities. I go home almost every weekend during the school year, as well.

 

However, because of this outstanding job offer with one of my past professors (about $21/hour, 20hrs/week for the duration of the summer, plus it looks great on my resume), I think I would be stupid not to accept (which I have already done), and thus I will be living in my college town for the summer.

 

The problem is that I am worried that I will become very lonely over the summer. It's bad enough now, during the regular year while the town is full of students. Despite it being my third year here, there is no one here who I actually "hang out" with, though I have several acquaintances from classes.

 

I have one friend who I study with a lot, but we don't ever hang out outside of studying for class. He will be here over the summer, but I don't think we connect well on a personal basis.

 

The only other person I know who will be here for the summer is my ex-girlfriend (read: my only girlfriend) from a few years ago (senior year of high school, then first semester of college). We only recently began talking to one another again, and she mentioned she's also a little concerned about it being lonely over the summer here and suggested hanging out occasionally... but this makes me a little uneasy because I don't think that hanging out with an ex-girlfriend when I'm lonely is such a great idea. I'm afraid of spending time with her because I think it will just make me miss "the old days" when I wasn't lonely, which also cooresponded to when we were together.

 

So, in all likelihood, I'll be driving back to my home town every weekend still, if only to escape boredom in my college town.

 

I guess the more general problem is that I simply haven't established any set of friends here; there's no one here I feel comfortable calling up and asking to hang out with me. I feel like as a 3rd year student, all the people around me have already established their friendships long ago and I'm left here with nowhere to go.

 

I'm a lonely college student who can't seem to figure out how to improve his situation.

 

Thanks to anyone who read this far,

Kyle

[whats wrong with me]

I didn't go to college and really cant relate but maybe someone else can....bump

[JohnM]

If you're to get a job over the summer, its pretty likely you will make work friends you can hang out with. You say you have 'acquaintances', you could easily change that word to 'friends'. If you send them a text or next time you're out with one ask 'What you upto later?' they'll probably be going out and invite you.

 

Don't be feeling that everyone else has an established group of friends, they may have been friends for a while but that doesn't mean you're excluded because of this. Everyone likes a new friend, and i'm sure you'd fit into the group in a no time at all. What have you got to lose? remember:

 

'Nothing ventured, nothing gained'