Guest Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I don't think my Husband "gets" that we are separated and what it means!....I am staying at the house with our two teenagers, and he's at his mothers house. But he calls telling me he misses me and wants to come home(it's been a month). I keep telling him I need time to figure things out. Then, besides taking the kids every other weekend to his mother's with him, he also comes over one day during the week after he gets off work as I'm working in the evening. The original plan was on that evening he would pick up the kids and take them out for fast food and bring them home. However, the past two weeks, he has come to the house and COOKED dinner at the house! Even though I have told him we had the agreement when he left that he would not come to the house when I wasn't home! Am I wrong to think he shouldn't come to the house? The reason I initially said it was because when he was here, I had money, and checks missing. Told him if he wasn't here and things went missing I couldn't blame it on him! But now, I just feel like it's an invasion of my privacy. He has talked to me about books I've been reading......(which were on my bedroom dresser). Feel like he may go through things, or worse refuse to go home and I'll come home from work one night and He'll be here! I guess I don't have anything to stand on here as we're not "legally" separated, as that is NOT in our state, but it was an agreement before he left. And then this past weekend, one day he left me flowers and a note when he picked up the kids, and then when he brought them back he left a gift. I know he's trying to make a nice gesture, but I don't need his gifts right now. I need time to figure things out. And actually the gifts make things worse for me! Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
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