I can't believe i'm jealous of another pretty girl!

[the_opposite_sex]

I'll be the first to admit that it's silly of me to be feeling like this! My fiance has a friend at work who I think is very pretty. He thinks she's pretty too. And last night, ppl at work threw him a goodbye party *since we're moving 3 hrs away*. Well I ended up sitting next to her and I just find her soooo much more prettier then me. Yea i'm pretty but dang. Nothing really compared to her and here I go COMPARING myself, it's silly.

 

And i'm pregnant! Which we are thrilled about! And getting married in June, which was already planned out before I even found out i'm prego. Of course after we got home last night, I spilled my guts w/out trying to start an argument. He was hurt by the way I was feeling, he said. I dont blame him really. He's also more outgoing then I am and so is this girl and its like, ya know....why you with me? the "quiet one"? He said I have everything he wants and needs in a woman/wife and that beauty is only skin deep. Agreed. And he asked me what he can do so that I never feel like this again and I told him that it really is up to me, there's nothing really he can do. How can I stop feeling down in the dumps anytime we're around another attractive woman? And just so you all know, this doesn't happen EVERYTIME we're around some other pretty girl....just this time since he actually knows the girl.

[amaysngrace]

And i'm pregnant!

 

first off congratulations and congratulations!! your STBH sounds like a great guy, genuinely concerned for you and your feelings. that's the good stuff, that man who loves you!

 

second, i was a bit self-conscious when i was pregnant. some days i felt less than attractive, to be honest. i don't know if this is what you are feeling, but if it is, it will pass. you may look at her in a year and say to yourself "what was I thinking?"

[Skeered]

Welcome to those pregnancy hormones...I often felt I wasn't good enough or cute enough during that time..

 

Plain and simple there will always be someone hotter, there will always be someone smarter, there will always be someone more talented then us out there in the world...and if everyone was out there trying to find that perfect someone they would never stop looking. Ya get my meaning...

 

Your guy picked you and you him..he sounds like he's very happy right where he is..what a wonderful thing. I think being jealous of someone once in a while is totally normal but letting it overwhlem you or bring you down is no good...pick yourself up and don't think about it anymore...everyone has a quality about them that noone else can top...

 

Congrats on the new addition on the way...

[Guest]

Welcome to those pregnancy hormones...I often felt I wasn't good enough or cute enough during that time..

 

yup, the hormones during pregnancy, gotta hate them. I have been insecure sometimes also. I am 8 months along now so I have kinda gotten used to the fact, but the hormones still get me sometimes. Just like people have said, someone out there will always be smarter, prettier, funnier and ect. than you out there, but you are you. your special qualities make you the person you are, and thats the person your man is in love with. it doesnt matter if someone is prettier than you, in your mans eyes, she doesnt compare to you. im sure you see guys cuter than him, but he is the one who has your heart and they dont compare to him either.

 

oh, hope your mood swings dont get too bad! mine were decent and i didnt have much. good luck with everything!!!