michiboo101 Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 and 1/2 years and we have a son together. We live in Jamaica and his family has filed for him to come to United states, they also filed for our 4 year old son. I have decided not to send him because I can't possible think of living without my son. I am so hurt that he is leaving and wants him to stay but it looks as if he wants to go. I don't know how to cope with it because he might have to leave in June and I know my son will miss him alot because he loves his Daddy, but I don't think this long distance relationship will ever work, please give me some advice, I never knew this would affect me so much. Link to post Share on other sites
justagirliegirl Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Why don't you go too? Link to post Share on other sites
Sadly Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Yes... why dont you go?? And for how long is he leaving? Did he dicide to more permanently??? If its for a couple of months until he settlers his US legal status, then I dont think if should be a problem. I know many people that leave their families for half a yr, and migrate to other countries to work. Nothing wrong w/ wanting provide his family something better, sometimes we have to make sacrifices. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 The possibility of sundering your nuclear family is bound to have a huge effect on everyone concerned! No way around that. I don't see how the r/s between you and your bf can last if you two do not choose to get married so you can be together. Do you consider yourself lifetime, committed partners, or has this just been a temporary arrangement of convenience? Why can't you go? Does your bf care about your feelings? You should put your son first in your decision making. No doubt the US provides fine opportunities for him, but if it also means he is permanently separated from his mother, that price may be too high to risk paying. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 You don't mention how long he will be gone, but that is going to be traumatic for a little person - to be away from you or away from him. I think you should arrange to go as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author michiboo101 Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 I won't be able to go now because I was not filed for, plus I don't have a US visa, I am in the process of getting one, but I won't be permanent, he and my son will be. I hope I get through because I really want to be near my son and my bf. Thanks for all the replies they helped to make me think a little more. Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 If he is a US resident, your son is also a US resident regardless of where he was born. Your son will be able to have a second passport to reflect his dual citizenship. If he is a US citizen, you can come in and be married and that will take care of the immigration issues. It is even easier if you can show that you lived as husband and wife in Jamaica for a period of time. I suspect that there may be more than meets the eye here--do his parents want him (and your son) away from you? Is there a racial thing going on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author michiboo101 Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 no there is not a racial issue, its a thing of getting a better life, guess we'll have to really sit and talk discuss the options we have and the decisions and sacrafices we decide to take. thanks alot. Link to post Share on other sites
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