thegamedale Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 Hi, I am 17 years old and in High School. But i have never been out with or french kissed a girl before, nor has any girl been interestred in me. I hang around with most of the "Popular" crowd in school, and nearly everyone knows my name in my year. My question is, what am i doing wrong? I have always thought my race got in the way (I am half indian, half portuguese), am i disadvantaged compared to my "white" friends?. I think of myself as quite good-looking, and have nice tanned skin colour, that people compliment me on. All of my other friends find it easy to find girlfriends, but i dont. Can you help me? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 I have always thought my race got in the way (I am half indian, half portuguese), am i disadvantaged compared to my "white" friends? i think you are maybe self-conscious about your race so you send off a bad vibe about yourself. girls pick up on that stuff, really. are you able to be proud of your individuality? Link to post Share on other sites
Admiral Thrawn Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 No it is not your race. I know a mixed race guy (half Black and half white) from my High School that seemed to have a way with girls, and would hug them, and girls seemed to be drawn to him. When I was in University, waiting on a line to buy a book, I encountered another mixed race guy in the music program. Again, he too seemed to have a way with the girls, and was even juggling a couple of women right before my very eyes (talking to one on his cell, then after that, another girl popps out of nowhere and they start hugging, etc...) to the best of my memory. Like yourself, I am also mixed race (Half Black and Half White). I know many, many white guys who have no luck with women, and they are white, they are even online. Believe me, race has absolutely NOTHING to do with success with women. And for the record, I and other people I know who are white, are over 30, never had sex, or frenched kiss or even liped kissed a girl, or ever had a serious relationship with anyone. We are hetrosexual, but there our lifestyle may be quite asexual. At your age, it is really NO BIG DEAL, you have a whole life ahead of you. So, no, there is nothing wrong with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted April 2, 2006 Share Posted April 2, 2006 ... it only becomes a deal after 10-20 years of no intimate connection with a woman, or even being able to talk to them. Link to post Share on other sites
konfuzd Posted April 2, 2006 Share Posted April 2, 2006 From limited information in your post, I can't tell you what's wrong with you, but what I can tell you is that I had my first kiss at age 17. I was already in college, it seemed like such a big issue at the time, but trust me, in a couple years it will all seem rather silly. Maybe you could try looking outside of your high school, try talking to girls at the mall or from another school. Maybe look one or two grades below you. Are you limiting yourself to those girls who are also in the 'popular' crowd? Maybe someone from a different group of friends you never considered before would be good company. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted April 2, 2006 Share Posted April 2, 2006 Stop listening to emo/punk music. Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 My first kiss was at 19 and I didn't go on my first date until I was 20 (I'm 21 now hoorah!) At anyrate you're doing better than I was at 17. What I suggest doing is instead of thinking about "getting a girlfriend" just stop trying all together. True you probably won't be dating anytime soon, but you will be happier with yourself and before you know it you'll just seem to "run into" the girl of your dreams. My reasoning goes if you're doing things that are interesting to you you'll find a girl who is interested in the same things. But that's just me talking. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 Stop listening to emo/punk music. :lmao: where did that come from? I found it amusing anyway Link to post Share on other sites
CrashIntoMe Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 I listen to emo/punk music, and the ladies love me But seriously, confidence is sexy, and that goes for both genders. Besides, alot of girls I know like inexperienced guys (myself included). Does the popular crowd listen to emo/punk? Link to post Share on other sites
ImWithHer Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 17 and no kiss? Not a problem. I was 17 before I had kissed a girl too, and the only reason I scored that one was the chick was a total tramp who just threw herself on me. My best advice to you is to not worry about dating - completely put it out of your mind. Teen girls can smell desperation and it drives them into hiding. Focus instead on being friendly to the girls you come in contact with. When you're comfortable there, work on developing a friendship with three or four of them. Eventually, when you become more comfortable with them and they become more comfortable with you, it'll happen. You won't even see it coming (that's the best kind!). Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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