cuteblondegurl Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 There is this guy I talk to almost everyday that I am attracted to. We work in the same building. He would compliment me and tell me that I am very pretty and nice. We seem to engage in really good conversation but he would never ask me out or ask for my number. Does this mean he's not interested? Don't know what to think. Usually in the past when guys have complimented me or talk to me they eventually ask me out or at least my number. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 There is this guy I talk to almost everyday that I am attracted to. We work in the same building. He would compliment me and tell me that I am very pretty and nice. We seem to engage in really good conversation but he would never ask me out or ask for my number. Does this mean he's not interested? Don't know what to think. Usually in the past when guys have complimented me or talk to me they eventually ask me out or at least my number. Perhaps he wants you to ask him out... some guys do not care to be the initiator. Not all guys are the same. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 There is this guy I talk to almost everyday that I am attracted to. We work in the same building. He would compliment me and tell me that I am very pretty and nice. We seem to engage in really good conversation but he would never ask me out or ask for my number. Does this mean he's not interested? Don't know what to think. Usually in the past when guys have complimented me or talk to me they eventually ask me out or at least my number. Maybe he has a GF and is a flirt; maybe he isn't willing to do anything until he knows for sure. Who knows. Ask him if he has a girlfriend. That's a good hint that you're interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cuteblondegurl Posted March 22, 2006 Author Share Posted March 22, 2006 Is it too forward to ask a guy out? I have never done that. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Is it too forward to ask a guy out? I have never done that. No, it's not. Link to post Share on other sites
prfrogkisser Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 I would find out first if he is available and then ask him out. Some guys are shy and wont ask while others are flattered at your approach. If you dont feel comfortable find a situation at work that might help you. If a group from work is going to lunch ask him to join you.This way it wont feel like a date:o Link to post Share on other sites
Author cuteblondegurl Posted March 22, 2006 Author Share Posted March 22, 2006 That is wonderful advice, but the problem is we don't work for the same company. I see him every morning during my workouts at the gym. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Give him your number. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Is he married ? Have a girlfriend ? Is he shy ? I would say you need to do some work here if you want him . I would ask him out and see what's his response ... Link to post Share on other sites
Author cuteblondegurl Posted March 27, 2006 Author Share Posted March 27, 2006 I finally decided to ask this gentleman if he would like to have lunch with me sometime and he said yes. We have a tenative date setup for lunch. I am just puzzled that he will not ask me for my number. Am I suppose to ask him for his or give him mine? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted March 27, 2006 Share Posted March 27, 2006 Good luck! Give him your number. Let him know you are interested. I had a girl do that to me once, totally unexpected. I digged her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cuteblondegurl Posted April 6, 2006 Author Share Posted April 6, 2006 I finally went out to dinner with this gentleman. I thought we had a great time. He told me he did, maybe he was just being nice. Or he's extremely shy. What signs do I look for? It's not like I am looking for a serious relationship. I am just looking for someone I can hang out and have some fun. Should I just be candid and tell him that? Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted April 7, 2006 Share Posted April 7, 2006 I finally went out to dinner with this gentleman. I thought we had a great time. He told me he did, maybe he was just being nice. Or he's extremely shy. What signs do I look for? It's not like I am looking for a serious relationship. I am just looking for someone I can hang out and have some fun. Should I just be candid and tell him that? cuteblondegurl = is a dude. Women are not this clueless. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted April 7, 2006 Share Posted April 7, 2006 i shouldnt say it but...its too perfect supermonk, cuteblondegurl isnt a dude she's blonde ok sorry, didnt mean to offend but hey Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I finally went out to dinner with this gentleman. I thought we had a great time. He told me he did, maybe he was just being nice. Or he's extremely shy. What signs do I look for? It's not like I am looking for a serious relationship. I am just looking for someone I can hang out and have some fun. Should I just be candid and tell him that? Has his behavoiur towards you changed since you went out to dinner together? Or is he acting his usual way when you are at work? Link to post Share on other sites
aleatoryd Posted April 15, 2006 Share Posted April 15, 2006 I think what you want to be careful about is that you maybe don't know enough about him. He could have a girlfriend or maybe a wife or he could be a single father - I'm not trying to sound negative I just think that you're at the getting to know him stage and thats very important. I'd say I'm at the stage behind you of trying to get to know a girl that I'm interested in so I can relate to what you are saying. I probably wouldn't ask a girl for her number as that adds pressure, also he could be shy (I'm shy and unsure all the time LOL). The girl I like gave me her e-mail address - I didn't ask. Then again I didn't offer. My it can be complicated - we're all different in what we view as "normal" conduct and we consequently have different expectations and reactions. I suspect he probably is interested if he went out with you. Though it depends what he considers a romantic date. At the very least you have someone to "hang around and have fun" as you put then you can get to know him and see how things develop. I think Adunaphel raised a good point you need to see how he acts around you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cuteblondegurl Posted April 16, 2006 Author Share Posted April 16, 2006 He hasn't acted differently since our dinner, at least not that I can tell. What I do know is that he is a recent divorcee and somewhat shy and reserved. I recently gave him my number and said if you'd like to go out, give me a ring. So, I'll see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted April 16, 2006 Share Posted April 16, 2006 He hasn't acted differently since our dinner, at least not that I can tell. What I do know is that he is a recent divorcee and somewhat shy and reserved. I recently gave him my number and said if you'd like to go out, give me a ring. So, I'll see what happens. Great idea, now the ball is in his court. Let us know if he asks you out for a second date. Link to post Share on other sites
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