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justagirliegirl

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I am much like a woman in this respect. It takes me a good 6 to 9 months to "fall in love" with some chick-a-dee and then I usually do the dumping when I get bored with them or want to move on. Many of my relationships with women only last 3 or 4 months before I split so I never even get to the "love" stage with most of them. :)

 

Do you come with a warning sign?

 

WARNING: Won't stick around!:lmao: :lmao:

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Do you come with a warning sign?

 

WARNING: Won't stick around!:lmao: :lmao:

 

ahaha :lmao: :lmao: good one JGG... I often wonder the same thing...:lmao: :lmao:

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Do you come with a warning sign?

 

WARNING: Won't stick around!:lmao: :lmao:

No, I don't....my philosophy is that until a couple has the dreaded "talk" about exclusivity each party is free to do as they please...in other words, both people have to agree to it and until that point everythings up in the air.

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incorrect WWIU....usually what happens is I get to the 3 or 4 month stage and figure out I'm wasting my time and that I can't be in love with this person or even be with them long-term. So I split to cut my losses and to not lead her on and waste her time also :)

 

Okay, senario here...you DO meet a woman who you start to really 'feel' something for. What do you do at the 3-4 month mark? Stick around or run? And let's say she has most of your 'requirements' ... ;)

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I kind of figure there has to be a decent guy out there somewhere right? Otherwise what would they have made all of the fairytales about? I'm guessing he lives in Antarctica or some remote island in the South Pacific.

 

The 0.1% are the *decent guys* that are alone because women cannot believe that there really ARE decent guys out there... women are jaded as hell when it comes to men. A *decent guy* comes around and women blow him off cuz they refuse to believe that they really exist. He's *good* so he can't be *real*.

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The 0.1% are the *decent guys* that are alone because women cannot believe that there really ARE decent guys out there... women are jaded as hell when it comes to men. A *decent guy* comes around and women blow him off cuz they refuse to believe that they really exist. He's *good* so he can't be *real*.

 

I have yet to meet one... One that is a decent guy whom I am attracted to, has the qualities I seek, doesn't play games and isn't handicapped (meaning emotionally or expressively)

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I have yet to meet one... One that is a decent guy whom I am attracted to, has the qualities I seek, doesn't play games and isn't handicapped (meaning emotionally or expressively)

 

You make it sound as if you have NEVER met a *decent guy*.

 

So why not hold out until you meet him? Why *settle* for less than that if you REALLY want a *decent guy*?

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The 0.1% are the *decent guys* that are alone because women cannot believe that there really ARE decent guys out there... women are jaded as hell when it comes to men. A *decent guy* comes around and women blow him off cuz they refuse to believe that they really exist. He's *good* so he can't be *real*.

 

First of all, not all women are jaded as hell. I, as an individual, am. I met mr. perfect. It was all an act. I met another mr. perfect. Again an act. What do you think I learned? If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

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Okay, senario here...you DO meet a woman who you start to really 'feel' something for. What do you do at the 3-4 month mark? Stick around or run? And let's say she has most of your 'requirements' ... ;)

well, obviously, one would stick around...

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Hey, guess what?

 

No one's perfect.

 

I'm.just.sayin.

 

Exactly. :)

 

But people seem to always want *perfection*, don't they?

 

If so, then that can explain why so many people are miserable in their relationships. They set the bar way too high... unrealistically too high... and if it is too high then everyone will fall short therefore frustration and unhappiness will result from an unfulfilled goal. :)

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First of all, not all women are jaded as hell. I, as an individual, am. I met mr. perfect. It was all an act. I met another mr. perfect. Again an act. What do you think I learned? If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

 

But your experiences are, nevertheless, limited. You may have just had *bad luck*. And that doesn't automatically that there aren't ANY *decent guys* out there, right?

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Exactly. :)

 

But people seem to always want *perfection*, don't they?

 

If so, then that can explain why so many people are miserable in their relationships. They set the bar way too high... unrealistically too high... and if it is too high then everyone will fall short therefore frustration and unhappiness will result from an unfulfilled goal. :)

 

I would say, more likely, people are miserable in their relationships because they don't feel good about themselves. Definately true for me.

 

Then they place blame on their partner, externalizing everything. It's easier to do this. When you have similar problems over and over again, with different people, chances are -- it IS you, not them.

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You make it sound as if you have NEVER met a *decent guy*.

 

So why not hold out until you meet him? Why *settle* for less than that if you REALLY want a *decent guy*?

 

Hold out?! Hmm well I haven't gotten married again and I've had 3 offers.... I am holding out. The only way to know if someone is worth the commitment is to date them and see if it is workable.

 

NO one is perfect I understand that. I don't want perfection that would be boring...

But someone like me would be nice.. That is what my best friend says. I need a man just like me.. I found him but he was still hung up on his biayth xgf and went back to her. He has since married her and is miserable.. O'well.. He made his choice.. I will not be second. I do have some pride. So I seek a man with his values that I adored so much...

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He has since married her and is miserable..

the majority of people who are married are miserable, so what's your point? :)

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I didn't say there aren't ANY SF. I said I'm sure there must be one walkin around this planet. :cool:

 

And you would turn him down cuz he's short, doesn't make a lot of money, or doesn't *look good*, etc. Or perhaps, for some reason, you assume that he has a little penis. :lmao:

 

In other words... it's always SOMETHING. There's almost ALWAYS an *excuse* to discount someone.

 

Just speaking hypothetically, of course. :)

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I know people have gone through this topic with you before SF. I would just be rehashing what everyone else said. People value different things in different orders.

 

I personally would, and do, turn everyone down because I don't want another dude in my life.

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I would say, more likely, people are miserable in their relationships because they don't feel good about themselves. Definately true for me.

 

Then they place blame on their partner, externalizing everything. It's easier to do this. When you have similar problems over and over again, with different people, chances are -- it IS you, not them.

 

And this is why *decent guys* are, for the most part, left out of the dating/relating loop. Most women have only experienced the *losers* - sometimes more than once - therefore they are accustomed to that. They aren't comfortable around decent guys because they do not act in a way that the women are used to... so they get turned down. :)

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justagirliegirl

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the majority of people who are married are miserable, so what's your point? :)

 

True! and what I don't understand is why people keep doing it over and over.:lmao: They actually want to subject themselves to the repeated hell. Same with child rearing.:lmao:

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And this is why *decent guys* are, for the most part, left out of the dating/relating loop. Most women have only experienced the *losers* - sometimes more than once - therefore they are accustomed to that. They aren't comfortable around decent guys because they do not act in a way that the women are used to... so they get turned down. :)

 

I gotta agree withh this. Many of the decent guys aren't the flashy or charismatic types.

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I know people have gone through this topic with you before SF. I would just be rehashing what everyone else said. People value different things in different orders.

 

I personally would, and do, turn everyone down because I don't want another dude in my life.

 

Well, then it's quite possible that some qualities that are highly sought after by women are the same qualities that are not commonly found in *decent guys*.

 

This could explain the *I want a decent guy but always end up with jerk guy* behaviour...

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Same with child rearing.:lmao:

 

Tell that to your mom ..:laugh:

 

that is a BS cop Out.. We are all here to reproduce and try to reproduce and most of us DO believe in the institution of Marriage

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I gotta agree withh this. Many of the decent guys aren't the flashy or charismatic types.

 

So now you are in a quandary. :laugh:

 

Go for the *decent guy* who isn't *flashy* or go for the a**h*** who is *all that*. Some choice, huh?

 

So this brings up another question... why do women assume that most *decent guys* are neither *flashy* nor *charismatic*?

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