figgurinoutlife Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 I have a question: If you've tried to cut your ex off by telling them and not responding to their texts or calls anymore cause they messed w/your head and played games and they get PISSED off, does that mean they still care for you? My ex is super angry cause I cut her off and am not responding to anything she throws my way anymore and I basically am acting like I don't care anymore. She is acting like she wants revenge or something. She HATES me now! If a person didn't care for you would they bother getting angry, plotting revenge? Wouldn't they act like they didn't care instead? I am not giving in or anything to her if I find out she does care, It's just a curiosity question.
jerbear Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Deep inside she may have something for you, right now I doubt it is caring. She maybe in the anger phase of moving on and breaking up in the relationship phase.
Dinnj1 Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 My ex is super angry cause I cut her off and am not responding to anything she throws my way anymore and I basically am acting like I don't care anymore. She is acting like she wants revenge or something. She HATES me now! could just be a 'stage' she's going through... spoiled and not getting what SHE wants. Soon, she'll play the I don't care either role OR feel bad for me and talk role.
Touche Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 She cares but not in a positive way. When she's indiffirent and is not reacting at all to you, then you'll know that she couldn't care less anymore.
SoleMate Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 There are cases where some (low) level of hostility indicates ongoing emotional attachment by an immature person. However, more often, and I think also in your case, it is pure jealous anger at the thwarting of the control attempts. This is very different from love. Sure, she "cares"...cares that you aren't under her thumb anymore. That's all.
Butterflying Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 the opposite of love isn't hate. It's indifference. Love and hate are both emotions that are stimulated by good, and bad feelings. Indifference is void of both feelings and emotions. That means, there is no interest, care, or concern. Right now, I am indifferent about my XBF's. One of them contacted me recently after no contact for several years. He thought I'd be upset that he called. But he was surprised to see that I had absolutely no feelings about it at all. Actually, he was disappointed because he realized that he no longer controlled my emotions. Now, I'm haaaaaappy!!!!
Author figgurinoutlife Posted March 23, 2006 Author Posted March 23, 2006 So basically she's mad cause she doesn't have control over me anymore? I have been acting like I don't care about her anymore cause I'm sick of her crap. She leads me on, tells me she wants to be with me then goes back to her relationship. She has always had control over my emotions.
SoleMate Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 What are you saying, Butterflyin? That she "still cares because she hates him"? Sure...she has emotions towards the OP. They are hostile, jealous, controlling emotions. Depends on what the OP meant by caring: 1) Did he mean "having warm affectionate feelings"? Then NO. 2) Did he mean "having any emotions whatsoever, including those of extreme hostility"? Then Yes, sure, that's obvious.
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