He cheated, but I want him back!!!

[beriwhit123]

My boyfriend lived with me for 12 years. We were always happy and had a great time together. I own my house and I paid it off before he ever moved in. I have 4 kids, when he moved in the youngest was 10 years old. Now they are all grown up. Two married with children, one lives out of state at college, and only one home who works full time. We made it threw all the hard times and now it should be time for us.

I found out he was having a affair with a women at his work. I told him he had to choose her or me. That he could not have both. He picked her. He left with his clothes and his golf clubs. I miss him so much. Four days after moving out he bought me a used car.

 

My car was starting to have problems. He spent $15,000 on the car. He left his 2 parrots worth about $4,000 and all of his things. He has not told anyone unless he had no choice. In his office at work are pictures of me all over the place. When I asked isn't she upset that my pictures are still there. He says she has not said anything. But I think seeing she is married it makes it easier for work to believe he is still with me. The women's husband I think is a pilot and is only home 3 days a week. He stays at her apartment when he husband and daughter (in college) are not home. The other days he stays at his mechanic's house. His son does not know, but he is going to see him this weekend without me and will have to tell him something.

He has his mail coming still here so he can come over every 10 days or so to pick it up. When he comes over we talk and he says he thinks about me all the time. We both cry and he spends about 2 to 3 hours here. Then he leaves. He offers to pay for my home heating oil and other things. Of course I say no. We were going to move to Florida in 5 months into a house he bought 2 years ago for us. For the last 12 years I paid all the bills and he was saving for us to move. The house in Florida is in his name only. Nothing matters to me except us getting back together, any help would be great.