Abusers

[geriberry]

Hi All,

I had an abusive childhood where I was verbally, physically and sexually abused, I also had a 17 year marriage full of sexual assaults,physical and verbal abuse. I have been separated for 2 years but now my ex husband seems to be either using our teenage kids to abuse me or they are copying his behaviour! I have a lot of problems with our 15 year old daughter displaying patterns of abuse towards me. I am being verbally abused, my property damaged and the latest thing is she has been logging into my MSN and emails accounts and she has been calling me a whore. I assume she has also given her Father my email passwords too. I have changed them his morning. I am left very low and in tears most of the time. I have got her some counselling support, informed her school etc but I dont know what else to do? I changed the locks to the front door when I split from her Father but she gave him the new keys. I have to change the locks again as he has had another key cut yet again. I would really appreciate your feeback and thoughts.

Thank You,

Geri

[amaysngrace]

would you be willing to go to counseling with your daughter? it seems like she is repeating the behaviors she was exposed to while growing up. i don't know, i'm not a doctor, but it seems you both need help here.

[blind_otter]

Children do copy parental abusive behavior, mostly when I read about it I've seen male children. Have you sought counseling for yourself?

[Sassy]

I totally agree with Blind that children mimic what the parents do . This is learned behavior from her father. As Blind said you need to seek a counselor for you and your daughter. She has seen this happen in your 17 yrs of marriage and this is all she knows how to communicate. Hugs to you .

[Guest]

She could actually be suffering from an illness. Be sure that whoever you speak to can or will refer you to a psychologist for diagnosis if necessary.