My long story...

[j dubb]

What's up everyone? My name is Josh and i'm 18. I'm new on here aka this is my first post. I'd just like to share my crazy story of my relationship and get some advice because im real down and confused. I'm a senior in high school and i started dating this sophmore this year. I had a crush on her and her sister last year just cuz they were identical twins and i didn't know either and they both look the same. Well anyways...let me put this on the table, i have pure o which is a form of OCD. Well everything was going fine in the beginning and then i started doubting things and so on.

 

My girlfriend has a single mom and 4 other siblings so her familt consist of a mom and 5 kids which is crazy in it's self. I'm going to give tell you this story with the least amount of details possible other wise it could be a novel. Basically her mom doesn't allow them to have cell phones or the internet and they only have one phone that isn't cordless with one phone line. One night back at the end of Nov.-beginning of Dec. we got in a disagreement on the phone and her mom broke us up after 2 monthes of dating. At this point, iIreally liked this girl. So we met up on the weekend to talk about how we could get through this and so on. Her mom caught us talking and we weren't suppose to hang out or call each other so this was bad. I talked to her mom and she didn't want us to be together still but i was polite and there seemed to be hope somewhere in her voice, but i went home and cried to my parents the first time over a girl. Over X-mas break she let us be back together after a month of sneaking around.

 

I was happy and she was happy and everything was fine. After 3 weeks her mom broke us up again in the middle of Jan. this time saying that she just loves me too much and doesn't relate to the family. She goes to me with all her problems instead of her. So her mom talked to me on the phone and told me to stay away and have nothing to do with her daughter and i didn't even do anything wrong. Me and her are in love at this point and we still want to be together. We tried taking a break with no contact to let her mom cool down but that ended like 7 days later becuase we have school together and everything. We just kept it a school thing and snuck around here and there. Her twin sister rattled on her a few times which made things worse because my gf was going behind her moms back.

 

She started soccer and i would take her to practice and pick her up after practice. Well this past week while she was at my house, her mom called and she never talked to my parents ever. My dad lied for us and said she wasn't here but he wanted to sit down and talk to her mother becuase he's good with talking to people. My rents love my gf they just don't like what her mom was doing becuase the first time she broke us up, i got real depressed and i was like that ever since. My dad talked to her and just ask if their were regulations or a compromise we could meet so we could be together. Her mom got all crazy and was real immature about it. She said that I'm all my gf thinks about when we go out and all she wnats to do is be with me and talk to me and doesn't relate with the rest of the family.

 

My dad tried to explain that you can just turn on and off people sfeelings toward one and another and thats what people do when they date. He just reminder her about how we were all teenagers at some point and how relationships were the highlight of your life. Eventually she threating my dad 3 times with getting her dad after my dad. Real mature adult thing to do right?! My dad wasn;t worried anyways though cuz my dad is a big guy. She eventually hung up on him. The next day in school she broke up with me and everything saying that now this time it is impoosible and if her mom sees me with her, shes going to call the cops and get a restraining order which is totally impossible because her daughter wnats to be with me really bad. She said that her mom hates my dad now and if she dates me when shes 18 her mom said shes going to disown her. So i just got this sick feeling in my stomach like i was going to puke.

 

We want to be with each other so bad and we love each other but now this is what happened and nothing can change. I tried tlaking to her but she just wanted to be left alone. I mentioned that nothing she come between love that is real but i understnad how her home life is crazy but that doesn't mean you should go against ur feelings. Eventually she wnated to be left alone so i let her be. Yesterday she talked to me a little bit but she had this type of attitude towards me like i did something wrong. One of her friends told me how she told her how much she loves and misses me and i kow shes been crying a lot. I just want to be with her and no one else. Shes not just my girlfriend, she was my best friend and now i can't eat or sleep and ocd doesn't help at all. What should i do????

 

I we talked about being together for a long time because im going to college like 20-30mins away. Should i try and search out answers? or should i let her come back to me? She could've got her permit awhile ago but didn't. I believe she is getting it soon so she could get her liscense in the beginning of next year. This is just killing me though because it both our first real relationships and loves. All my friends and her friends think her mom is ridiculous and that she shouldn't listen. Some of mine say move on but they don't know what it's like. Why should i move on when we both really wnat to be with each other it's just her mom in the way. Will her mom ever change. My dad asked if she had anything against me and her mom didn't say anything. She couldn't because i didn't do anything wrong. I just need some help. I wish i could see the future.....HELP PLEASE!!