Still sleeping wiv my hubby even though seperated

[suzie sweet]

I cant work this out so i doubt you can,Weve been seperated coming up a year now (due to my affair) amongst many other major problems before that,He`s never away due to kids etc and its like we are living a normal family married life like when we first met apart from he goes to his parents house where he is residsing,He was bitter at first but the past 4 mths he`s been making passes and weve been sleeping together, he says he dosnt ever want another woman and ill always be a big part in his life and that hes happy with his independance without the nagging wife bit (cos i was a bit of a control freak) but i know he loves family life . So DO YOU THINK HE WILL COME BACK OR DOES THIS HAPPEN OFTEN MARRIED PEOPLE STILL SLEEPING TOGETHER EVEN WHEN SEPERATED?????

[blueberry]

its probably "normal" in the respects that most couples take a long while to seperate - i think cold turkey is best in the long run but I dare say not many people manage that straight away.

 

as long as you dont beat yourself up about it for too long. always make sure you have a back-up plan - you know, enough money tucked away, etc. get him out of your system and move on - and no-one can tell you when the best time for that is.

[orpheus]

I cant work this out so i doubt you can,Weve been seperated coming up a year now (due to my affair) amongst many other major problems before that,He`s never away due to kids etc and its like we are living a normal family married life like when we first met apart from he goes to his parents house where he is residsing,He was bitter at first but the past 4 mths he`s been making passes and weve been sleeping together, he says he dosnt ever want another woman and ill always be a big part in his life and that hes happy with his independance without the nagging wife bit (cos i was a bit of a control freak) but i know he loves family life . So DO YOU THINK HE WILL COME BACK OR DOES THIS HAPPEN OFTEN MARRIED PEOPLE STILL SLEEPING TOGETHER EVEN WHEN SEPERATED?????

 

Good news for you, in many areas you would not be considered separated as you are still having sexual relations. Even better news, by sleeping with you again he can't divorse you with cause (that being your affair).

[Curmudgeon]

In a no fault divorce state that doesn't matter. My divorce papers stated that if we resumed sexual relations prior to the divorce becoming final that did NOT nullify the fact that we were legally separated and to do so would take a separate and specific ourt filing.

 

Since neither of us had any desire to sleep together it wasn't an issue anyway. She already had someone else and I couldn't have been less interested.