Second chance = crap!

[shelters]

I'm crossing my fingers for you, starlight!!

[daphne]

My ex came back after I broke up with him for lying to me. Like a dummy, I didn't listen to my friend who said that I needed to make him earn me back and I just took him back. He lied again about the same thing. This time, however, he seemed a little too sure of himself when we broke up as if to say "Take it or leave it." Granted, it wasn't infidelity or anything as serious, it's still lying.

 

I regret taking him back and giving him the benefit of the doubt. He suffered absolutely no consequences for his actions and felt free to do it again. This time he can choke on it. 3 weeks of no contact, 4 weeks of not seeing each other. Every day I get stronger, even if by degrees. Every day I get a little angrier and less conciliatory towards him. I figure in another month I'll be ready to forget about it.

[starlight2025]

I'm back again. I'm now 7 months into my 2nd chance with my ex. Just thought everyone should know that I have passed the 6 month deadline.

[RealBroken]

I have a great paln too!

 

And it will be different to everybody elses.

 

Everybody elses situation is different. Sometimes it will work, sometimes it wont.

 

Depends under what circumstances you broke up under doesn't it. No situation is exactly the same.

 

I know ppl who have broken up in a relationship, then got back together and married. In fact my parents are one of them. Broke up in their twenties, later found each other again. Have been married almost 40 years.

 

So there you go, there is hope for some.

 

Every situation is different.

[Kengne]

I'm only 1.5 mths into mine. So I'll be back in 4.5 mths. Same here - so far, no major issues.

 

K.

 

Back for a mini check in.

I'm now 4 mths into my 2nd chance.

So far, so good.

 

We have not had the same issues that led us to break up (i.e. my ex-bf), arise. I also have not had contact with my ex-bf in many many moons either.

 

I will check back in around the 6-7 mth mark. This should be interesting, as last time we only got to 5 mths before breaking up. Let's see if we beat our record lol.

 

K.

[Kengne]

Back for a mini check in.

I'm now 4 mths into my 2nd chance.

So far, so good.

 

We have not had the same issues that led us to break up (i.e. my ex-bf), arise. I also have not had contact with my ex-bf in many many moons either.

 

I will check back in around the 6-7 mth mark. This should be interesting, as last time we only got to 5 mths before breaking up. Let's see if we beat our record lol.

 

K.

 

Well as of yest it's over, AGAIN lol.

 

This time for different reasons. He initiated 'The Talk' - and I agree with him after truly searching my heart & soul. Basically, emotionally we have not 'clicked' or progressed deeper. He's not in love with me, and I'm not in love with him. I don't know why but it's been a year off/on and I don't think 'time' will make us feel that missing spark.

 

There is NO hope or desire for reconciliation, and I firmly believe this time - it's for the best. We tried - 2x - it didn't work and such is life.

 

I won't say I DON'T believe in 2nd chances because I do. It just didn't work out for ME.

 

I believe in God, I know everything happens for a reason. And I know that this too, shall pass.

 

K.

[starlight2025]

Well as of yest it's over, AGAIN lol.

 

This time for different reasons. He initiated 'The Talk' - and I agree with him after truly searching my heart & soul. Basically, emotionally we have not 'clicked' or progressed deeper. He's not in love with me, and I'm not in love with him. I don't know why but it's been a year off/on and I don't think 'time' will make us feel that missing spark.

 

There is NO hope or desire for reconciliation, and I firmly believe this time - it's for the best. We tried - 2x - it didn't work and such is life.

 

I won't say I DON'T believe in 2nd chances because I do. It just didn't work out for ME.

 

I believe in God, I know everything happens for a reason. And I know that this too, shall pass.

 

K.

 

 

So you only made it 5 months this time around? Sorry to hear that you didn't break your record. Anyway at least you tried and you can walk away from this relationship without any regrets. You did the best you could but for some reason it just was not meant to be. Now you have all the closure you need.

 

As for me today marks 8 months into my 2nd chance. Technically this is like my 4th chance. The last time we reconciled it lasted 7 months. First time we broke up was september 2004. That break up lasted a week. Second time we broke up was in January 2005. That break up lasted 3 weeks. The 3rd time was in late August 2005 and that lasted 2.5 months. Then we reconciled in November 2005.

 

Each time we broke up was for a different reason. So going 8 months without breaking up is a record breaker for me. I do believe in 2nd chances. Alot of people don't and that's ok. I was mostly at fault for all the times that she broke up with me.

 

For me I would rather walk away from a relationship knowing that I did my best on my end to make it work. That way I would know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it was not meant to be. I took advantage of her offer to try again because I believe the relationship deserves one more shot.

 

If we break up for good then it won't be because I did not try hard enough. Sure I'll feel sad all over again but the difference is that I won't have any regrets. I won't have to wonder if I could have tried harder. Break ups are hard enough but enduring the pain of regret after a break up is even worse.

[Kengne]

So you only made it 5 months this time around? Sorry to hear that you didn't break your record. Anyway at least you tried and you can walk away from this relationship without any regrets. You did the best you could but for some reason it just was not meant to be. Now you have all the closure you need.

...

 

For me I would rather walk away from a relationship knowing that I did my best on my end to make it work. That way I would know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it was not meant to be. I took advantage of her offer to try again because I believe the relationship deserves one more shot.

.

 

Hey!

 

I try to live my life without regrets, because I know everything happens for a reason and every season comes to an end. This chapter in my life is closed now.

 

I don't know if I gave it my 100%, my all though. He told me last year and this year again that he was holding back emotionally - and so was I. Why? I have MY reasons, but I don't know and can't speak for HIS reasons.

 

Either way, I think every relationship has a divine purpose. I love this quote which sums it up:

 

"... EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS THE RELATIONSHIP YOU NEED AT THAT TIME. When the divine reason for the union has been fulfilled, or the divine season for the union comes to an end, a relationship will end, and you will enter the meantime, until next time... "

 

So it's back to the meantime for me now lol.

 

As for you - good luck with that! Four breakups is alot IMO - but God only gives you what you can handle, so obv there is a reason you two keep on getting back together. Good luck again!

 

K.

[starlight2025]

Well here I am 9 months into my 2nd chance. Things are actually going quite well. In fact the connection is much stronger between us now. We don't take each other for granted. Let's see if I can make it 1 year.

[AriaIncognito]

Well here I am 9 months into my 2nd chance. Things are actually going quite well. In fact the connection is much stronger between us now. We don't take each other for granted. Let's see if I can make it 1 year.

 

Great news, starlight. Good for you. I wish you lots of happiness, and keep us informed. I'm sure there are instances of second chances working out. Not all situations are so cut and dry and we'd like to make them here on LS.

 

Does it mean we should all sit around waiting for our second chances? Hell no. However, if one comes up, we can certainly weigh the pros and cons....

 

Good luck to you!

 

Jennifer