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Hi,

Gosh, it feels like ages since i last posted a thread in here !!!

My break up with my ex gf was hard from the time it happened in November...everyday was a pain. Last time I saw her was mid january. After this, things got worst for a bit and a way better. I learnt to accept that she wasn't part of my life no more.

Anyway, we are end of March and today, she called !!! Can someone give me reasons to why she might be calling ? What is going through her mind ? What SHOULD I DO ?

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please dont read anything into it hun.... you know her better than we do obviously so if she is giving you any signs you'd know

 

maybe she feels enough time has gone by and she genuinely wants to see how you are doing?

 

play nice but dont expect anything. would you want to throw away all your hard work and self help? dont let her drag you back to the pain of the first day. maintain that arms length.

 

stay chilly and keep us updated

 

m

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What is extremely pissing me off is that when i gave her a chance to be friend. She denied and became a navy submarine for almost 3 months...its too easy to be like this !!!

I am more upset by the whole situation...She is totally selfish ! My feeling for her? NONE. I lost respect for her but still, i am scared of going backward if i contact her !

I AM LOST !

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If she is going to cause you such anxiety then your answer is "don't respond". Since you are doing well now just stay the course. Do not let her curiousity about you cause you to backlash. It is about you and she has forfitted her right to be involved in your life. The only time you need to respond to her is if you bump into her and then just be corgial and say hello.

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she may have been a submarine - but you can be a cruise ship....maintain current course, full steam ahead...!!

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freckles3131

I'd say if after all this time you 1) still care why she is calling 2) are feeling upset/confused/whatever/anything at all about the call

then.............do NOT go there.......

If you were 100% in your "good place' this phone call wouldn't be posing so many questions/fears/etc......so.....N/C......nada...stick with it.

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freckles3131

You said you were in major pain over this.......don't open that can of worms!

Why would she call????? Who knows...but I can guarantee it has to do with her and only her and her selfish needs or curiousity.....

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