I'm really screwed up, saw psychic

[mb155533]

Hello, I'm new here so please bear with me. I've been married 12 years. Before I got married, my ex-girlfriend and ex-wife had an argument over some cuss words said by my exgf in front of my son. This led to my exwife writing a letter to me asking me to tell mx gf to watch her mouth. I showed this letter to my gf and she became ballistic. She accused me of backing up my exwife. At this point my gf had been with me 4 years with no apperent problems. After this my gf became distant and within 6 mo we were apart. Problem was I really loved her, although she didn't think so.

 

Several months later I met my current wife. Everything has been going smooth for 12 years, till now. Two months ago I saw my exgf again on the street. We said hi and went our separate ways. Exgf gave me her phone # and asked me to call her just to see how I was doing. I did and this is where I screwed up. Exgf side of conversation was purely innocent. She told me about her current relationship and when she saw me on the street she just wanted to see how I'D had been. Fine, I figured after 12 years I shouldn't be harbouring any feelings for this woman. Wrong. Last 2 months all I think about is her. I only had that single contact with her but since then it has really been a headache, A friend asked me to go to a psychic with him to kill some time and I never told him about the encounter till after the reading.

 

When I sat down in front of this psychic she blew me out of the water. First thing she said without me opening my mouth was that I was going to have an old flame re-enter my life, and within 4 months my current marriage would be over and my old gf and I would be back together. The only person that I have related this to has been here and my friend who I went to see the psychic with. I told him what happened and asked him if he any contact with the psychic prior to my arrival. He said no and that he didn't even know my ex. I belive this because I haven't told anyone that I had said hi to my ex and I didn't even know my friend before I got married. This is really screwing my head up.

[Guest]

If psychics were so good at predicting the future, don't you think they would have won all the lotteries and be basking in their mansions instead of doing grunt work? Everybody has an old gf; many people run into them. Psychics work by telling people stories like this that have a high probability of happening and then the people are all 'oooh you're soo prescient'. Don't believe her and do NOT break up your marriage or keep dwelling on thoughts of your gf. No good will come of your believing this stuff.

 

And stay away from 'psychics' since you are clearly unable to resist believing what they say. It will certainly mess with your head.

[catgirl1927]

It's natural to have some feelings when a relationship goes unresolved like that. What you have to ask yourself is, do you want to risk 12 years of marriage for someone with whom you have already had one failed relationship? You have to understand that if you pursue this woman you will lose your wife forever.

 

The expertise of psychics is to be able to read people and tell them what will bring them back. I wouldn't listen to that AT ALL. I would get this sorted out, though, because apparently your feelings are showing on your face.

[carmaenforcer]

I don't know if there is anything to this psychic thing but have a respect for the unknown because I have heard so freaky stories about people being told stuff that is right on.

I personally do not want to know something that will happen because I will be second guessing my actions from there on and possibly making the thing that was told to me would happen, happen, when it might not of otherwise.

 

You didn't screw up in calling your ex, you screwed up in asking or accepting the number in the first place. You did it because you secretly liked the idea of a second chance with her. Say what you want here, but be honest with your self, above all.

 

If you are happy with your Wife, be careful because like catgirl said, you will loose your W forever if you play around with this too much.

[bob2les]

Your not screwed up, you just think you are. First, if your relationship started to fall apart after this letter I belive the foundation of this relationship already had a crack in it. One letter in my opinion would not cause a relationship ending reaction like that. Second, Once you saw this old flame it opened a door allowing some repressed feelings and emotions to revive themselves. Don't think for one moment that this is the same person you knew 12 years ago. The memories are, not the person. Your in love with memories. The person you know 12 years ago is gone, only the body remains with someone else in it. Hard facts, I've been there. It also almost cost me a marriage. Don't do something stupid like contacting this person, because it come back and bite you in the a**. It did me. If she calls you don't be nasty, just be short. She'll get the message. As for psychics, these people are parasites that live off the misfortunes and worries of others. Most of the ones I see live in raggady old houses and remind me of gypsies. I figure that if they could predict anything they would be the first ones to benefit OK, there might be some goods ones around but I never met one. Most use a technique called "Cold Reading" this is an old parlor trick. They sense a reaction to a question and jump on it. Then your hooked. They reel you in every 2-3 months. As you can tell I don't like them. Enough said.

Leave the past in the past. Don't dwell on it because it will seep into your current relationship. It to will infect it and eventually kill it. Then what will you have? 2 dead relationships. Sorry for being so strong but I learned the hard way. Don't be as dumd as I was. You won't get far if your walking foward but looking back.

[MusicWoman]

As for psychics, these people are parasites that live off the misfortunes and worries of others. Most of the ones I see live in raggady old houses and remind me of gypsies. I figure that if they could predict anything they would be the first ones to benefit OK, there might be some goods ones around but I never met one. Most use a technique called "Cold Reading" this is an old parlor trick. They sense a reaction to a question and jump on it. Then your hooked. They reel you in every 2-3 months. As you can tell I don't like them. Enough said.

This is quite harsh!! Please be careful not to be a person who just groups people together. Stereotyping does not leave room for a truely happy life...

 

Anyways, there are all different types of psychics. Theres many times where I will know something before it happens. Theres many times where my roommate reads my thoughts before I even mention anything. She knows me, but she will describe people..even physically..down to the detail of what they look like. This stuff that my roommate and I do is more like enhanced intuition. Everyone can do it...its like...if your in a room by yourself with your eyes closed and theres really loud music playing...and you know the second that someone else walks into the room. You didn't hear them or see them..but just knew they were there.

 

Now, yes there are a lot of people who claim to be psychic..and they aren't. But, there really are some people with a gift...and they really are part of the unexplained. We don't know how they know these things. But what I do know about being around a lot of psychics...is that sometimes stories differ.

 

before you do anything, maybe try seeing a different one. Don't mention anything about love life...have a poker face...tell them that they must be wrong...do whatever you want and see what they say. It can't hurt.

 

Basically even without the psychic part...you still have a decision you have to make. Either your wife, or your ex. For all you know your ex is really really into the guy shes with. It could not even be an option. But, you also can't live the rest of your life with your wife while having feelings for someone else the whole time.

 

I wish you the best of luck