upset on boyfriend's alcohol comment

[genie]

My boyfriend knows that i drink sensibly,he never gets drunk but he said in the past he had. He argues that he is drunk as in feeling a little dizzy but not making a fool of himself.

 

Yesterday he said that he would like to see me drunk to see how i act and that it would be fun if we both do it together.I felt offended because i told him that i know when to stop and that i don't need to be drunk to have fun.He said it was something he thought we could do and apologize for the comment after i arged with him.

 

He also said that he didn't mean to be "hammer" drunk just a little buzzed.I was dissapointed that he thought like that because he has seen me drinking and knows my limits so why would he like me to be drunk?.

 

He later said that he will never harm me and that he was just referring to being a little dizzy not unconsiously drunk.He insisted that it would be really funnyto see me drunk. This guy has been a wonderful boyfriend,that's why his comment kind a shocked me. is this normal or was he trying to imply something else? please help

[Tony T]

You are way overreacting.

 

If this is the most serious thing your boyfriend ever does to offend you, you're the luckiest lady in the entire world.

 

If he made a suggestion that the two of you get drunk together because he wanted to see what you'd be like, you should have just told him you didn't want to do that. Then you could have had a calm, civil conversation about drinking and alcohol. I think that would have been a healthy issue for both of you to talk about.

 

Chill out. If you feel unresolved on this issue, have a good talk with your boyfriend and then drop the whole thing.

 

I don't think your boyfriend meant any harm by his remark. I personally view it as playful at worst...even something he may have done to fill some silence. You've made a whole lot out of a whole little.

[Hunter]

I totally agree with Tony. My boyfriend said a similiar thing to me awhile ago and I just laughed and said, 'yeah why not?' It's fun to be silly sometimes, as long as you don't make a habit of it. We ended up having one of the best nights ever because we both became completely uninhibited and just did whatever we wanted! Normally we are pretty conservative people, so I'm glad I did something out of character for once and had the experience. Your boyfriend didn't mean to offend you or suggest he wanted to take advantage of you, he just wanted to spice up the relationship. I think you should lighten up.