a4a Posted March 27, 2006 Share Posted March 27, 2006 Well I tell ya, they all change. They quit cleaning up, quit taking care of themselves, and pack on 40lbs? Maybe not all that at once but that is where it is headed? They lure you in and then once they got ya........ KABBAMMO! How many of you noticed a significant change in your spouse shortly after being awfully I mean lawfully wedded? Just curious if it is normal........ my H is turning into a slob, no longer neat and tidy. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Q: what is the one food guaranteed to make a woman lose her sex drive?? A: wedding cake Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Well I tell ya, they all change. During the 5 years I was married I only put on 5 lbs, My dress was alot better than it is today and I was not a slob... In fact I always did the house cleaning and made sure the kid was bathed , fed and put to bed and I was the bread earner You just have a guy that has slipped... You might be able to return him and get a newer model.. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I have not seen that to be the case. I have however seen that guys tend to put on a little weight as they get older and it's harder to eat what you want and stay thin, or skip a few meals to lose weight. But then again, my BF is as vain as I am. Neither one of us have a tendency to let ourselves go. It's just part of our personalities. Which might really be the core of it. Maybe it's not marriage at all. Maybe that's just him. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Q. Why do grooms cry at their own wedding? A. They know they've received their last blowjob! Seems to me it was the ex who packed on the pounds and became demanding, controlling, manipulative and unpleasant. I may not have been the greatest husband who ever came down the pike but I at least took care of myself physically, bathed regularly and worked my ass off to support the family. I don't think that generalities work here. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 A. They know they've received their last blowjob! That is also why brides are smiling... Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 That is also why brides are smiling... :lmao: so true! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I think DH is the same as he ever was – I've grown more aware of those idiosyncracies and habits the longer we stay married. I've learned to pick my battles, because most of those things don't matter anyway in the big picture. Otherwise one tends to bitch about inconsequential stuff that isn't going to change anyway and one ends up unhappy because of those small potatoes. a4a, I figured you'd have dumped the guy by now, you two don't sound like too good of a match! Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Is the point were I vent about only getting head 5 times in 2 years..... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Is the point were I vent about only getting head 5 times in 2 years..... Atleast you get it once in a bluemoon... Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Atleast you get it once in a bluemoon... I knew that was coming. Maybe we should introduce them. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I knew that was coming. Maybe we should introduce them. (I'm sitting here, really laughing too, that's hilarious!) Oh man, could you imagine that??? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 OH, relax people, we're just jokin'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 OH, relax people, we're just jokin'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I see it is to the point clearification is needed. Guess I didn't miss much in my absense. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Sorry, I can't resist myself - You meant Clarification, right? hehe.. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Sorry, I can't resist myself - You meant Clarification, right? hehe.. That too....LOL. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 That too....LOL. Thanks! Tudor! I've been missing ya! Where ya been?? Only five times?? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Just curious if it is normal........ my H is turning into a slob, no longer neat and tidy. It is normal and it is human nature.... when the motivation to "keep up appearances" ceases then you'll see who you REALLY married. Happens to everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Tudor! I've been missing ya! Where ya been?? Only five times?? Me too Tudor!! Man wish my s/o liked oral like you. I wish i got it more as well !!:love: I think alot changes when you sign on the dotted line. Some people feel that they don't have to do the work when you got them already. Guess you start taking one another for granted and get selfish . I think that is why there are so many divorces in the world. People aren't meeting each other's needs . As for appearance that is no excuse no taking care of yourself. I take care of myself and always look good for my s/o . I exercise everyday .He does as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 I think DH is the same as he ever was – I've grown more aware of those idiosyncracies and habits the longer we stay married. I've learned to pick my battles, because most of those things don't matter anyway in the big picture. Otherwise one tends to bitch about inconsequential stuff that isn't going to change anyway and one ends up unhappy because of those small potatoes. a4a, I figured you'd have dumped the guy by now, you two don't sound like too good of a match! He is too good looking to dump and too good in the sack! No he is overall a good guy, but you know no marriage is perfect so at times it is good to vent here on LS. I am one to believe that you do not put down/vent about your spouse to mutual friends or even your own friends. I also have a odd twisted sense of humor such as lodging taters up his ass.... or stick his balls in a garlic press........which is a joke, but again would never state this to his face or do it. Life is too short to be so frucking serious. I would give my H a overall rating or 9 out of 10. It is just that one point that makes me want to stick his balls in the garlic press while I shove a tater up his ass! I really don't think the actually wedding changes much.... but time itself. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 No he is overall a good guy, but you know no marriage is perfect so at times it is good to vent here on LS. I am one to believe that you do not put down/vent about your spouse to mutual friends or even your own friends. I agree with this COMPLETELY. In real life people take it too seriously. It's good to have a place for me to get the crazies out of my head! Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I agree with this COMPLETELY. In real life people take it too seriously. It's good to have a place for me to get the crazies out of my head! Totally agree. That is why i come her as well catgirl!! Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 No he is overall a good guy, but you know no marriage is perfect so at times it is good to vent here on LS. I am one to believe that you do not put down/vent about your spouse to mutual friends or even your own friends. I agree with this whole heartedly. No matter how much I want to vent I do not want friends or family developing negative opinions of my wife just because of a poor choice in words on a day I needed to vent. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 I agree with this whole heartedly. No matter how much I want to vent I do not want friends or family developing negative opinions of my wife just because of a poor choice in words on a day I needed to vent. This also keeps you from getting bit in the ass down the road and avoids the gossip of the kitchen chicks. If any person can run around stating that their partner is perfect and just peachy all the time, I will show you a big fat liar! LMAO!!! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I think cherishing an active contact with your spouse is the most important thing. If he is messy, but showers you with affection - it's what really matters. You can't have a good marriage with some jackass, but if you have the right "material" in your hands, you can shape your marriage the way you want. But just like any good thing in life, it takes effort and practice. Talking and joking around keeps things flowing. Smiles, laughter, and cheerfulness keeps things easy. Taking care of them reminds them on a daily basis who's number one in their lives. Men want to see their wives happy. That's why they hate when women are nagging or demanding. I guess for thousands of years, when we were still more animals than human, an unhappy woman meant she's dying (ever seen an unhappy animal?). A dying woman meant the little ones would die too or the man couldn't provide enough water or food or whatever. I think it's instinctively encoded in a man's mind that an unhappy woman is a sign of a total tragedy or disaster. After all, it doesn't cost anything to wear a smile and sparkly eyes around them. Try it and you'd be surprised! Link to post Share on other sites
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