Touche Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 During the 5 years I was married I only put on 5 lbs, My dress was alot better than it is today and I was not a slob... In fact I always did the house cleaning and made sure the kid was bathed , fed and put to bed and I was the bread earner You just have a guy that has slipped... You might be able to return him and get a newer model.. My dress was alot better than it is today and I was not a slob... Art, you wear a dress? And why was it better then than today? Can't you buy a new one? Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 Art' date=' you wear a dress? And why was it better then than today? Can't you buy a new one?[/quote'] I thought the same damn thing when I read his thread the first time! Oh ya gotta love AC..... in a dress or pants he is still the man! Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 Let me clarify..... My H is drop dead gorgeous....... not a LB overweight and he is gorgeous! The post stated that he is not as neat or tidy as he seemed to be when we first met...... toothpaste in the sink and what not. So there! Why is it that people cannot read the entire post........ or think that a general statement is about a personal issue? Sheeesh......... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 First, yes I agree Art you da man! (Even if you DO where a dress! ) Secondly, yes a4a's guy is hot, tall and not at all overweight - chiseled features and all and I'd do him if I didn't already have my own hot husband. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 Damn woman..... now if you be thinkin' you be stealin' my mans and stuff well I will just steals your mans! Hell maybe we should take them both out and parade our "Trophy Husbands" around? We can borrow a couple of dresses from AC and get all dolled up. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Damn woman..... now if you be thinkin' you be stealin' my mans and stuff well I will just steals your mans! Hell maybe we should take them both out and parade our "Trophy Husbands" around? We can borrow a couple of dresses from AC and get all dolled up. :lmao: I don't think we wear the same size as Art. And NO, I don't want to steal your man but I bet I can train him better than you ! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
carmaenforcer Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I don't think you have to say I do for your SO to change for the worst. I was with my ex for 10 years (not married) and we both changed in negative and positive ways. We both gained weight. The weight gain thing is normal with age and comfort. When you are single you have to be at your peak physical attractiveness after you are with someone for a while your prioreties might change a bit. Instead of going to work out you just go to work, come home tired, don't have to go out to find a mate they are already there. We stop doing house work because our Wives stop giving us BJ's, it the circle of life. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 We stop doing house work because our Wives stop giving us BJ's, it the circle of life. Perhaps she should have stopped doing YOUR laundry and YOUR side of the bed and give you food in paper dishes... second thought, not prepare any food for you since you don't think you should "help." Your wife is not your servant or slave. It's not her job to serve you domestically and sexually! House work has nothing to do with BJ. I would understand if you said: "She became mean or cold to me so I stopped being motivated to do this or that", but you literally see your help as a pay check for sexual favors! I can't even find words to explain how disgusted I am by the sentence I quoted. :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 I thought the same damn thing when I read his thread the first time! Oh ya gotta love AC..... in a dress or pants he is still the man! Thanks.. or I'm such a clown Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 Everybody changes - we notice it first in our partner and sometimes we never notice it at all in ourselves. Is he more of a slob because the two of you don't go out as often? Or maybe do as many strenuous things as before? Maybe work and life is taking its toll on both of you emotionally and you have decided to spend more time at home together which maybe led to an overall air of laziness? Maybe each of your tastes have changed in entertainment and rather than compromise by doing what he wants one month and what you want the next month you just don't do either? Maybe your priorities have changed in ways that you didn't recognize until now. His priority was to be more neat, but now its something else. Its not easy to see our own changes and often not easy to listen when our spouse points out those changes. And some people have an unrecognized and often hazy idea of what constitutes different phases of a marriage - and of life. At age xx its time to cut the hair and wear stretch pants kind of attitude because that's what they saw growing up and what they perceive their family may expect of them and without conscious thought they put those changes into effect - not even realizing the effect it will have on others whose time-line may be different. Link to post Share on other sites
carmaenforcer Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 RecordProducer, that was a joke. But just so you know, I do all the cooking, she doesn't know how, I do my own laundry and neither of us does the bed on a regular but I'm usually the one that finally gives in and does the bed because I can't stand sleeping with the blankets all a mess. I do help with the cleaning by the way too. But I still don't get BJ's. That's it I'm reviving the Legalized Prostitution debate. J/K again RP. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 Our counselor said that you don't stay the same after you marry .You change through the years the thing that keeps the marriage together is growing with the change . If you don't grow with the change then you have conflict and the marriage ends in disaster. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 That's it I'm reviving the Legalized Prostitution debate. J/K again RP. Ooohhhh... now you have to tell me when you're joking, that's so embarrassing! I did hear statements like these though from men and women. At least when you combine them what you get is: 1. women complain about their husbands not helping them 2. men complain about their wives not giving them pussy so what's the conclusion? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 1. women complain about their husbands not helping them 2. men complain about their wives not giving them pussy so what's the conclusion? the conclusion is: don't get married Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 ... is that nobody should dole out household chores or sex only in response to the "proper" reception of either. If you feel like making food or vacuuming or having sex, than do that without expectation of reward for doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 ... is that nobody should dole out household chores or sex only in response to the "proper" reception of either. If you feel like making food or vacuuming or having sex, than do that without expectation of reward for doing it. you are correct MICHAELANGELO in your assumptions of what should happen.....but you are forgeting about human emotions and needs which are highly illogical and not based in reason. The way things should be and the way things are in real life are quite different animals. Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 but do i really want to keep a running tab on things? Do I need a white board to keep track? Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted March 29, 2006 Author Share Posted March 29, 2006 I don't think you have to say I do for your SO to change for the worst. I was with my ex for 10 years (not married) and we both changed in negative and positive ways. We both gained weight. The weight gain thing is normal with age and comfort. When you are single you have to be at your peak physical attractiveness after you are with someone for a while your prioreties might change a bit. Instead of going to work out you just go to work, come home tired, don't have to go out to find a mate they are already there. We stop doing house work because our Wives stop giving us BJ's, it the circle of life. Nah ...... I stay at peak physical attractiveness for me. The problem with the BJs and sex is that I like sex more than my H, I have to "reward" him with new tools, gift certs, and buy him things. He is such a Hussy! Sex is my reward. Link to post Share on other sites
carmaenforcer Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 No need to be embarrassed RP my W doesn't get my sense of humor either and as a result I am forever having to apologies or explain. a4a, I wish my W was more like you. I hear a woman's sex drive increases with age around the 30's or so and with it some freakiness. Dare to dream. Anyway, your husband is a lucky man. Your house would be spotless if you were my W. RP, The conclusion, is women need to stop asking us to clean and do it themselves and men need to stop asking women for sex and, wait what the heck am I saying. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 No need to be embarrassed RP my W doesn't get my sense of humor either and as a result I am forever having to apologies or explain. RP, The conclusion, is women need to stop asking us to clean and do it themselves and men need to stop asking women for sex and, wait what the heck am I saying. I just don't know you. It's one thing when you don't get humor and another when you think that someone is serious about something that... 99% of men are serious about! My husband doesn't need to help me in the house; he has gotten me all the possible replacement for house work (machines, cleaning lady, etc.). Now he only needs to buy me a dildo! As you see the situation can be reverse too. Link to post Share on other sites
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