She is complicated..

[Jordan]

Hello, im 16 and i met a girl at my job who is awesome. Right now, im a bit confused about it though. The first night i met her she was telling me about this guy who asked her for her phone number and she said yes because she cant say know, 'but i dont even like him' she said. This kinda frightened me from ever thinking about asking her for her number...Well, anyways, this girl has been verbally abused by her father and so she has a very low self esteem. The next week after that i gave her flowers on her car and left a note telling my feelings, when asked if the flowers were a good or bad thing, she said 'good.' The girls that asked her that said that the flowers being a good thing, means that she likes me. Well, she gave me her phone number like the next day, and we talked all week, and next weekend i asked her to go to a formal dance with me. She said yes, and its good, except im not sure if this all goes back to her 'not being able to say no.' We talk on the phone almost everyday, but only cuz i call her, What is it with girls, that they do not call me, but they want me to call them? If a girl would call me, then id be able to know for sure that they want to talk to me, and they are not just talking to be nice. Is calling a girl everyday, a bad idea? should i try to skip everyother day or something? Please answer my questions and give any other advice you can, thanks.

 

Jordan

[Tony T]

Girls don't like guys who are predictable. You shouldn't call on a regular schedule. And you shouldn't demand that she call you. Old fashioned gals like the guy to do the calling.

 

Don't worry about what she thinks of you right now. Just treat her right, be a challenge, don't be her shadow, don't be predictable and see where things go.

 

This girl has been through a lot of abuse by her father and she has a lot of problems to work out for herself. Don't press her to act the way you want her to. Accept her just like she is.

 

I promise you, it will take a very long time for her to heal the wounds from the abuse she has sustained from her father. She probably hasn't told you nearly all of it.

 

If you can't handle the confusion, go after another girl.

[Kiz]

Hello, im 16 and i met a girl at my job who is awesome. Right now, im a bit confused about it though. The first night i met her she was telling me about this guy who asked her for her phone number and she said yes because she cant say know, 'but i dont even like him' she said. This kinda frightened me from ever thinking about asking her for her number...Well, anyways, this girl has been verbally abused by her father and so she has a very low self esteem.

GOOD FOR YOU FOR BEING SO AWARE OF WHERE SHE MAY BE COMING FROM.

 

The next week after that i gave her flowers on her car and left a note telling my feelings, when asked if the flowers were a good or bad thing, she said 'good.' The girls that asked her that said that the flowers being a good thing, means that she likes me.

FLOWERS ARE ALWAYS A GOOD THING...UNLESS SHE HAS A HORRIBLE ALLERGIC REACTION TO THEM...YOU SOUND LIKE A PRINCE SO FAR.

 

Well, she gave me her phone number like the next day, and we talked all week, and next weekend i asked her to go to a formal dance with me. She said yes, and its good, except im not sure if this all goes back to her 'not being able to say no.'

I THINK IT JUST MEANS SHE WANTS TO GO TO THE DANCE WITH YOU. ENJOY IT!

We talk on the phone almost everyday, but only cuz i call her, What is it with girls, that they do not call me, but they want me to call them?

FEAR. SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU TO THINK SHE'S CLINGY...BUT, I'M IN MY MID-THIRTIES AND I CALL MY BF WHENEVER I FEEL LIKE IT...DO WHAT MAKES YOU COMFORTABLE.

If a girl would call me, then id be able to know for sure that they want to talk to me, and they are not just talking to be nice.

TELL HER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM HER FROM TIME TO TIME...MAYBE SHE NEEDS TO FELL THAT IT'S OKAY FOR HER TO CALL YOU.

 

Is calling a girl everyday, a bad idea?

NOT A BAD DAY. CALL WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WANT TO HEAR HER VOICE, BUT ALSO GIVE HER A CHANCE TO CALL YOU. MAYBE SHE'S SAYING EVERYTHING SHE NEEDS TO SAY WITH EACH OF YOUR CALLS TO HER? SO, SHE DOESN'T FEEL A NEED TO CALL YOU.

 

should i try to skip everyother day or something? Please answer my questions and give any other advice you can, thanks.

JORDAN, YOU SOUND LIKE A WONDERFUL YOUNG MAN. GO TO THE DANCE, GIVE HER FLOWERS, AND CALL WHEN YOU WANT TO. TELL HER THAT IT'S OKAY FOR HER TO CALL YOU AS WELL, AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.

 

I apologize for the all caps, I know that's considered "shouting", but I didn't know how to distinguish "my" words from yours.