Tim'sAngel Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Hey everyone I'm Angie!! Nice to meet ya!! ::shakes hand:: Well, It's like 11:30 pm and I'm up searching Google.com for some relationship forums and found this one. I have a bit of a problem that keeps nagging me and really could use some random advice from people who don't know me. First, to let you know a lil about me... I'm 21 yr old single mother to a beautiful 1 yr old boy named Landon Alexander. I met my boyfriend a little over a year ago and have been seriously dating for almost 5 months. He has a daughter who is 8 and a step daughter who is 15. He is 36. We met on an online dating site. He was on it to meet new friends, I was on it because I was bored. We fell in love the day we met. I am about to be moving in w/him in another month or so. Ok, so there it is in a nutshell... so on to my problem. It's a communication problem I guess you could say. He has been stressed the last few days as his daughter will be moving to California with her mother and new stepfather (we live in Tx.) which of course means he won't get to see her very often. I am trying to be supportive, I cant even imagine how hard that is. He has been a bit distant lately which i can completly understand. It just seems all the sudden we aren't spending any quality time together where as before you couldn't keep us apart. He is very busy with being an independant film maker/musician/singer/songwriter/director/writer not to mention he has a 9-5. I would think that when he does get a couple of spare minutes, he would want to spend them w/me. Instead I find him playing online games, or reading, or like in the car on the way to grocery store, gas station.. instead of talking to me he turns on audio books. I mean I practically live with this man and we hardly spend any time together at all. I will come up to him and he will make an excuse to why he can't give me any attention. When I try to bring it up how it hurts me, he just says "I'm sorry" and doesn't give me a reason. I find that every night for a week I've gone to bed either crying to myself, or just laying there feeling empty and I'm starting to get very angry because my needs aren't being met. I want to talk to him about it but he has made it clear he doesn't want to discuss it, and I feel cruel bringing anything up right now since he is under so much stress, but if I can't get to the bottom of this and find some kind of solution to the problem, I will become resentful and bitter. I don't even know what kind of advice to ask you for. Any thoughts?? I'd really like to hear from you men. I know you guys all have this understanding for each other Link to post Share on other sites
luvtoto Posted April 2, 2006 Share Posted April 2, 2006 Well, I would suggest developing a hobby for your own sanity. Get busy!! :bunny: If he sees that you don't *need* him then maybe he'll come around. If not? Then move on, seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tim'sAngel Posted April 3, 2006 Author Share Posted April 3, 2006 Hmmm... maybe I spoke too soon. We actually had a talk about it a couple of days after I posted and he apologized about not being himself and how bummed he had been since his daughter is moving away. So that night i cooked a nice dinner and we got Landon to bed early and spent the whole night together, eating, drinking margaritas and watching movies. :D Ever since then he has been all over me. I've known him for a year but since we've only been dating for 5 months I guess maybe we haven't quite learned each other in every way. He just needed some time to be to himself and think through all that was going on. A lessoned learned on my part... Link to post Share on other sites
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