Dreamer084 Posted March 30, 2006 Share Posted March 30, 2006 Well I have been with my new gf for about 4 months now almost and my ex gf came over late one night gave me back my promise ring. She wants me back and has wanted me back after she dumped me. I met this new girl and she is fantastic in every way..yet sometimes I think of my ex gf and whether me telling her to move on was a mistake. It still hurts not to be with her, but my new gf is very good to me. I think of her sometimes and she told me basically we can't be friends after being broken up. Is this normal to think of your ex at times like this? Keep in mind my new gf lives upstate and I dont see her much as I would like to..could this be a factor as to why I think of my ex because I dont see her as much? I am just oh so confused sometimes. I am very honest with my new girlfriend about the situation and she knows how I feel because shes been through something very similar. I need some advice on where I should go with all this. Should I get some time to myself and think things out or should I stick with my new gf who is absolutely wonderful or should I talk to my ex again? Thing is I don't depend on my ex for happiness..I just miss what we had sometimes.. Feedback plz. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 30, 2006 Share Posted March 30, 2006 I'm confused, does your ex want you back right now? If so, I would not recommend it. Stick with the girl you have now as she seems more understanding and willing to stick things out with you. What's changed about the ex? Really, that's wat you need to get to the bottom of. Why does she want you? If she hasn't really changed or is just lonely, man run away. Let go of her and embrace the new girl. If you leave her and go back to your ex without much having changed, then I would say you'll end up losing them both. For me, about the only way I'd take my ex back is if she admitted her mistakes, apologized profusely, professed her undying love for me and asked me to marry her. Hah. Fat chance In other words, it ain't happening. So ask yourself what is is your want, what has changed about the ex (if anything), why she wants you back, etc. all the while remembering you have someone right now that really likes you and is sticking with you. And ask yourself "Is the grass greener "really" over there or is it my imagination?" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamer084 Posted March 30, 2006 Author Share Posted March 30, 2006 Yeah she wants me back right now...idk man sometimes I go check out her profile on myspace or I see things that remind me of her or hear things. I just think of moments we had. It's just tough..even 4 months after the fact...but remember here back in december she wanted nothing to do with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 Caliguy is right. Stick to the new girl for now. Remember your ex dumped you! Lets say IF and this is a big IF you did go back to your ex. If she hasnt got sorted what split her from you in the first place then you may get dumped again. I m sure Caliguy used this somewhere.... Hurt me once, shame on you Hurt me twice, shame on me! I believe you are confused due to the distacne involved with your new girlfriend, or maybe you where on the rebound from the first relationship. How long did you wait before you got into a new relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamer084 Posted April 3, 2006 Author Share Posted April 3, 2006 Month and a half...but I couldn't of refused this girl....so damn beautiful..so perfect. It's just hard sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 Month and a half...but I couldn't of refused this girl....so damn beautiful..so perfect. It's just hard sometimes. Dude, don't blow it with the new chick. Your ex dumped you and didn't give a damn about you. She probably only regrets it because she sees you with a girl that's better than her. She's probably feeling inferior so she feels like she can save her ego by getting you back. Don't give her the satisfaction and don't be an ass to your current girlfriend. The new girl seems pretty cool and understanding. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamer084 Posted April 3, 2006 Author Share Posted April 3, 2006 Thanks man I needed that. Link to post Share on other sites
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