longlegzs80 Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 My life lacks loneliness in the fact that I don't have any decent friends. I have one friend who is great but he is over in Iraq and we keep intouch with tons of emails. But, my thing is I don't have any friends. People I could call up and go out with that night or whenever. The people that are in my life I wouldn't consider friends. They only call when it is convient to them and they can't go out unless it is a huge group. I don't know. I like to make some transformations in my life and finding people to be friends with me is one of them. Not sure if this sounds pathetic but, it is true. I like to have someone to talk to, someone to go out with etc. I feel somewhat alone in this area of my life. HELP would be great. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 Male, female or either? Link to post Share on other sites
ddnnee Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 ya know, seems like there's lots of people who are "lonely" around and after college. Reason is most people are too busy with their own life to hang with you. They gotta work , go school, take care of things at home, etc... The only kinds of friends who has the time are either: 1) rich kids who don't work or go school. 2) before college kids. 3) in the older life where most people are settled down in their house and just doing repetitive jobs day in and out. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 3, 2006 Share Posted April 3, 2006 you really only need one that is "the best" possibly one of each sex is great too because men provide a different perspective than most women. the most effective way to find a best friend is to be a great friend to him/her. someone with common interests, values and goals. someone who will lift you up as much as you do them (emotionally). someone who is not at all threatened by you - who can keep information private and give solid, sound advice. someone to trust completely. someone who makes you look and feel better than you actually do. The key is that you actually do these things and hold these qualities back to your dear friend as well. Others are mere aquantances, which is not a bad thing either, just in a completely different class as far as friendship is concerned. Link to post Share on other sites
lilah Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 The best way to make friends is to socialize! Join a club or group with common interests. If you like to read, join a book club. If you like to bowl, sign up on a bowling league. If you are interesting in something but have never tried it...get out there and try it! There are tons of things you can do to make some new friends. One thing you can count on is that a new friend is NOT going to come knocking on your door. Link to post Share on other sites
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