boyfriend always ignores me when we go out socially-HELP

[bebegal]

To make a long story short.... whenever my boyfriend and i go out socially he insists that I be there always... and then we get to the place he drops me like a fly.. he becomes mr. social butterfly..flirting with his other girls and hanging out with guys...and barely aknowledges my presence. If I talk to him he says one or two words to me then carries on with his covnersation. He does not get it.. We have fought about this so many times and he says he likes to mingle.

 

Why then does he insist I come?

Why doesn't he get how rude this is?

We went to the party in the limo--he went up to the front to give directions, stayed there the entire time laughing with other girls and guys sitting next to him while I sat at the other end. He told me I should have come and sat next to him

 

 

I am scared we might break up b/c he always acts like this, I always get mad and cause a scene. However when we are alone he loves to cuddle and shwoers me with attention. I just can not get used to his "going out behavior" What can I do... the girls at the club with us are always like I can not believe you let your boyfriend treat you liek that.. he is ignoring you the whole night. This always gets me so emtional..and it is always different girls telling me. WHAT CAN I DO... he loves to go out so I tried staying in on those nights but then I never will see him

[Adunaphel]

Since talking did not work, next time you could try doing the very same thing he does.

As soon as you arrive at the party/event, completely forget about him.

Pretend you are single and you are there on your own.

Convince yourself that you want to be at the party, flirt, have fun, get to know new people. Have as much fun as possible, talk and flirt with the nicest guys you meet.

In other words, ignore him *but* absolutely concentrate about having the best time of your life.

 

Perhaps you'll start to appreciate the good side of a bf that ignores you when you are out together.

 

Perhaps when some guy will mention to him with disbelief "I cannot believe your gf is ignoring you like *that*" it will be a wake up call for him.

 

Perhaps meanwhile you'll meet a guy who will seem worthier of your attention and would never dream of neglecting you at a party... if this is the case, the better for you, the worse for your boyfriend.

 

How long have you been together?

 

If it's not much time you have been seing each other, perhaps you should really ponder whether it's the case to actually break up over this.

 

If *he* decides to break up over this because of your scenes, it wouldn't be your fault (I think your reaction are quite normal), perhaps it wouldn't be his fault either, it could just mean that you are not made for each other.

[alphamale]

your b/f is smart BEBEGAL...he knows how attraction works with women. he treats you good sometimes and treats you not-so-good at other times... this is the key. he is exhibiting normal guy behaviour. if you cannot stand the heat then breakup with him but I don't think you will. i wish both of you a long and semi-happy relationship

[Pyro]

To make a long story short.... whenever my boyfriend and i go out socially he insists that I be there always... and then we get to the place he drops me like a fly.. he becomes mr. social butterfly..flirting with his other girls and hanging out with guys...and barely aknowledges my presence. If I talk to him he says one or two words to me then carries on with his covnersation. He does not get it.. We have fought about this so many times and he says he likes to mingle.

 

Why then does he insist I come?

Why doesn't he get how rude this is?

We went to the party in the limo--he went up to the front to give directions, stayed there the entire time laughing with other girls and guys sitting next to him while I sat at the other end. He told me I should have come and sat next to him

 

 

I am scared we might break up b/c he always acts like this, I always get mad and cause a scene. However when we are alone he loves to cuddle and shwoers me with attention. I just can not get used to his "going out behavior" What can I do... the girls at the club with us are always like I can not believe you let your boyfriend treat you liek that.. he is ignoring you the whole night. This always gets me so emtional..and it is always different girls telling me. WHAT CAN I DO... he loves to go out so I tried staying in on those nights but then I never will see him

 

If he still fails to treat you better even after the two of you talked about the problem, you need to dump his ass. Guys like that will never be able to hold and maintain a meaningful relationship. Do yourself good and get rid of him and find someone who will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. You are only making yourself look bad by staying with him.

[MusicWoman]

Heres an idea for you...

 

He says that you should have come up and sit with him right?

 

Next time you go out to a party, attatch yourself to his hip. Everywhere he goes, follow him, force yourself into the conversations.

 

Either he is wondering why you aren't following him around at parties, because your worried about stepping into his conversations. Or, maybe hes just being an ass. I think if you follow him around at the next one it could go two ways and you'll be able to see the big picture a lot better. Maybe he will be introducing you to these girls now instead of flirting with them or to the guys and stuff...or he will get pissed and tell you to stop following him. If the latter happens you know what to do then.