sunburst86 Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 Hey every1, I have a bit of a dilema, I have become back friends with someone I was attracted to 2years ago but her and my then best friend in high school had a falling out and has ya do in high school I took the best friend.. I really wanted to go out with this person 2 years ago.. Now in since New Years Day have been seeing each other as friends and have become very close... I have now fallen for this girl again but how do ya ask ya one of your best friend out?? I don't wanna ruin our friendship again.. ... Very confused I have had differant advice from differant people.. I am so cofused now... I would like to hear some more... I am new to this forum stuff so bare with me... Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 You take a gamble as you would in any dating situation. It is trickier as she is a good friend but if you have feelings the buddy thing is not enough for you. You can bite the bullet and look for someone else to date and just stay friends or you tell her how you feel and see if she has the same feelings. Has she shown you any interest, romantically? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunburst86 Posted April 5, 2006 Author Share Posted April 5, 2006 Has she shown you any interest, romantically? Well she all ways (especially after af few drinks) says how much she loves me and ask me for hugs and that sorta stuff... But I think that is just has mates... There are lots of little things like dinner dates and stuff that could be taken either way... That is part of dilema too... Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunburst86 Posted April 5, 2006 Author Share Posted April 5, 2006 I just spoke to the female involved and I said a few things to her I shouldn't of after she pushed my buttons.. I quess a relationship is out of the question after she asked me whether I would I mind if she we were at a party with my friends and she hooked up (or had a pash session) with any of them?? Me trying to hide my feelings exploded and basicallly said that... She was the town bicycle anyhow so why are you asking me and the final words were something along lines of; [COLOR=#000000][FONT=MS Shell Dlg]"ok...that kinda hurt..im gonna go now i got stuff to do and i don't really wanna talk now" So I might of blown a friendship and a relationship? [/FONT][/COLOR] Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 That depends on how good of friends you both are. If your friendship is solid talking about feelings should not end the relationship. If your just so so friends then the added problem of feelings might end it because your not close enough to want to try and work it out. She will probably wonder what set you off and probably come to the conclusion that you like her ( by your reaction ). How she deals with this information will tell you about your friendship. You also have the option ( based on your needs ) to stay friends ( but not so close ) and look for someone else. Feelings will change things but they don't have to end it. That depends on how mature you both are in handling this situation. Ps. Based on what you said about her actions to you I can't conclude she likes you back. These could just be good mates feelings and nothing more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunburst86 Posted April 7, 2006 Author Share Posted April 7, 2006 A good friend of mine is also a good friend of hers and is very trusworthy.. I havn't seen her for a month or so cos she lost her mobile phone.. But I wanna what she says on monday... Keep you informed.. Link to post Share on other sites
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