KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 My dilemma is I'm now single and I'm interested in meeting single guys who are post-college but not so old they are looking for a potential wife. I'm not into either the bar scene or online dating, because I don't think either of these methods attract the type of guys I like. As far as I can tell, guys in the range I'm looking for remain within their social groups and none of my friends right now have any links to these. I'm trying to take some classes to meet new friends, but most of the people are older/married already. I'm not really an outdoorsy type, so sports/outdoors groups aren't much for me either. Anyone know any good tricks to meet guys of this age range? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 I'm not into either the bar scene or online dating, because I don't think either of these methods attract the type of guys I like. so...um...let me get this straight. You're not into guys who drink and play on the 'puter??? Thats about 95% of guys right there. So already you are starting out at a big disadvantage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Author Share Posted April 4, 2006 Uh, no. I happen to like guys who drink and guys who play on the computer (yeah, even gamers are just fine), what I don't like is going to bars and having to act like I'm on display in a store or looking for/meeting guys on dating sites. I don't think either of these methods attracts the types of guys I'm interested in dating. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 I was going to say, drink beer and play video games. Men flock to this. I meet a lot of guys on the basketball courts around here. I also started playing frisbee golf, which is the gayest sport ever, and there are tons, absolutely tons of single guys between the ages of 21-35 there. Most of them play regluar golf as well, but I don't do well in sports involving balls, and I used to play ultimate frisbee, so there you go. I think you and I like different types of men, though. I like them big, dumb, and pretty. Like, if you have past times that mostly dudes have, then you tend to hang out with dudes. That's how I've done it anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 but I don't do well in sports involving balls, I don't know b_o...i've heard you're quite the athlete in the bedroom Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 I don't know b_o...i've heard you're quite the athlete in the bedroom I should revise that -- my face is like a ball magnet, so I try to stay away from sports where the balls could actually do lasting damage. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 Just because you go to a bar doesn't meant you have to be on display. The are good guys that go to bars on Sat and then to church on Sun. Don't the let the bar scene be a bad thing or a bad cover to a potentially good book. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Author Share Posted April 4, 2006 Just because you go to a bar doesn't meant you have to be on display. The are good guys that go to bars on Sat and then to church on Sun. Don't the let the bar scene be a bad thing or a bad cover to a potentially good book. Well, another caveat to this is that I have no one to go to the bars with! A single girl drinking all alone looking for guys to meet? I might as well crawl into bed with Charles Manson. I'm thinking the coffee shop scene might be more appropriate for me- and safer if I'm alone. Still, it's harder to imagine getting approached there. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 Well, another caveat to this is that I have no one to go to the bars with! A single girl drinking all alone looking for guys to meet? I might as well crawl into bed with Charles Manson. I'm thinking the coffee shop scene might be more appropriate for me- and safer if I'm alone. Still, it's harder to imagine getting approached there. You can meet guys pretty much any where if you are willing to approach them and not wait for them to approach you. The simple fact while the bar may have things about it that don't appeal to you it does offer guys the liquid courage to approach you that they may other wise never have the balls to. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 sporting events tend to attract men in groves. sports bars - same thing.... pick a sport you may have SOME interest in - then brush up on the fine details of the game or a favorite team. This way you will be able to have a conversation with the men without it appearing that you are there "looking" for them... just watching the sport... Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Author Share Posted April 4, 2006 Bloody hell, it always comes down to sports. I really don't want a guy who follows sports- my dad is a sports guy (still plays baseball in a league even though he's in his mid-50s, he's even the manager). I like the occasional hockey game, and watching the Superbowl, other than that I want nothing to do with sports. And unfortunately I'm an utter coward when it comes to approaching total strangers. >sigh< Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 Uh, no. I happen to like guys who drink and guys who play on the computer (yeah, even gamers are just fine), what I don't like is going to bars and having to act like I'm on display in a store or looking for/meeting guys on dating sites. I don't think either of these methods attracts the types of guys I'm interested in dating. Sounds like a girl for me! I don't drink beer but wine, grappa, hard liquor, and mixed drinks. You can hang out at EB and gaming stores but I doubt that is a good idea. Ever try the bookstore? Get into politics, you might meet some doctors, spin doctors that is... Coffee shops... ok but you don't really get approached to often, people move in and out of it rather quickly. Do you have any friends you trust, who you can goto a bar and really got your back (make sure you get home to your home)? Granted males in general are rather sexed up. Taking classes well, take the upper level 400 or 500 levels or sign up for a graduate level certificate program. Might get some grad students. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Author Share Posted April 4, 2006 I'm starting to think I'm screwed... not in a good sense. I suppose I better just try to live life and hope I run into a few guys I like... ... and yet this instills no confidence in me... Link to post Share on other sites
dprelz Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 Don't force yourself or try to hard to meet someone new, I think that works for me. Just be confident with yourself wherever you are and when you least expect it, you will meet someone. That's how I look at it. Specific to your post, I'm looking for the opposite, and I don't want to hookup with the type of girls who go to bars either. So you aren't alone, it's frustrating, that's for sure.. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 I'm starting to think I'm screwed... ... and yet this instills no confidence in me... well, what do you want KM??? You don't want a dude into computers or drinking or sports. You just nixed almost every dude out there, even the nerdy ones. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 Even though I have little to no interest in sports I prefer men who do. They tend to have hotter bodies. I hate that bubble muscle gym look. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Author Share Posted April 4, 2006 alpha- READ THE ABOVE POSTS! If I must be specific: I like drinking, I like computers and video games, I like action movies and comic books and scif and porn. I should be a guy magnet. Even more I like hanging out and board games and cooking for people and shopping (ok, this never lands a guy, not a straight guy anyways) and occasionally hitting concerts and going to flea markets and nights on the couch with rented movies and/or video games, especially old school stuff. I like walks just about anywhere, museums (especially science or art), and going new places. I don't like bar scenes as pick-up places, sports, cars, wannabe-MTV lifestyles, meatheads, or frat boys. This clear things up? Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 KM, any chance you live near SF? Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Author Share Posted April 4, 2006 KM, any chance you live near SF? Unfortunately no, but I wish I did because the way I hear it, I'd have lots of guys to go antiquing with, if not to date! (Ok, dirty secret, I am a mad antiques fiend too...) Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 alpha- READ THE ABOVE POSTS! If I must be specific: I like drinking, I like computers and video games, I like action movies and comic books and scif and porn. I should be a guy magnet. Even more I like hanging out and board games and cooking for people and shopping (ok, this never lands a guy, not a straight guy anyways) and occasionally hitting concerts and going to flea markets and nights on the couch with rented movies and/or video games, especially old school stuff. I like walks just about anywhere, museums (especially science or art), and going new places. I don't like bar scenes as pick-up places, sports, cars, wannabe-MTV lifestyles, meatheads, or frat boys. This clear things up? You are trying way to hard on this one. You can meet good guys just about any where. If you work out you could try the gym. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 To bad, I'm early LOW 30's as in currently 30. East coast but oh well... nixed again by age, this time I'm to old! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittenMoon Posted April 4, 2006 Author Share Posted April 4, 2006 I wish I was still living close enough to my old college to get a gym membership there. I have this fear of public gyms... Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 I wish I was still living close enough to my old college to get a gym membership there. I have this fear of public gyms... I think gyms are disgusting. You go to work out and spend an hour breathing other people's sweat. And no one seems to remember to wipe off the machines. yuck. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 alpha- READ THE ABOVE POSTS! If I must be specific: I like drinking, I like computers and video games, I like action movies and comic books and scif and porn. I should be a guy magnet. Even more I like hanging out and board games and cooking for people come over tonite KM...I will PM you my address hey, any chick into porn and cooking is good with me. I may be a little out of your age range however Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 What about arts and concerts, like symphonies? I've met a few interesting people there. Depending on where, you might get to meet their son. For me daugthers Link to post Share on other sites
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