Amy Posted September 24, 2001 Share Posted September 24, 2001 Any advice would be greatly appreciated =) To give you some background on my situation: I am a 27 year old woman who just found out my boyfriend of six years was cheating on me. We have since broken up and several months later, I find myself seriously involved with a man 6 years younger. My current bf and I were basically in the same situation -- being that we had both ended a long-term relationship (his being 2 years long). We've been together for about 3 months now. It seems much longer because we've spent almost every waking moment with one another. I feel as if he may be my "soulmate" and he's often told me likewise. We've talked about marriage and children and spending the rest our lives with one another. I am hesitant in making a serious commitment with him because of our age gap. I've heard the old adage, "age doesn't matter" but I've noticed a difference in attitude, beliefs, maturity, interests, etc. between my bf and I. Is the issure of the "age gap" too big of a hurdle to overcome? I love him dearly and am willing to make this work. But am skeptical of the success of the outcome. I envision so many problems to overcome -- social acceptance, parental conflicts, commitment issues... Is it worth it? Amy Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 24, 2001 Share Posted September 24, 2001 Since women tend to mature faster than men, you may have a problem over the short term. If he is mature for his age, as he probably is if he's dating you, the success of your relationship relative to the age issue is apt to improve with time. My advice would be just to date, live together, spend fun times together, etc. for a period of time before you think of marriage. Also, as a practical matter, no matter what age two people are...spending every waking minute with each other can cause a relationship to die a lot faster. Both of you need to have quality lives separate from each other if this is going to work in the long haul. The other thing to concern yourself with is that both of you may be rebounds for each other, spendings lots of time comforting each other and retarding your healing process from your previous relationships. If that's the case, you have problems ahead. Take this slow, take this easy, get separate lives, and all may work out very well for both of you. Just don't start talking long term right now. Link to post Share on other sites
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