Did you grow up in a "normal" family?

[blind_otter]

I've been there too Blind otter , try working as a stripper in a nude club when your 16 years old.Just to have a roof over your head .Try couch surfing for years as a young woman and reaizing your out of couches .I would have paid to have a family that had money abuse me over the crazy broke mother that had us living in a car chasing after a crank adict and she abused us.

 

 

hell jeah, as a mexican friend of mine says. I always said, even after my mom beat me with a stick, hey at least she buys me stuff.

[tinktronik]

hell jeah, as a mexican friend of mine says. I always said, even after my mom beat me with a stick, hey at least she buys me stuff.

:lmao: :lmao:

My mother quote "she always is willing to lend a "hand""

[luvtoto]

Guess who gets blamed for ruining my father's life? Clearly I, in the womb, engineered this whole thing

It just amazes me cg, how the child gets blamed for mistakes the parent makes. The child pays the price. It's sad.

[luvtoto]

My parents tried to apply for financial aid when it was my turn to go to college. I was just going to beauty school.

 

But, first let me mention that my parents were very wealthy.

 

The financial advisor about laughed her out of his office. I remember it like it was yesterday.

 

She looked crushed when she found out they would have to pay.

 

Doesn't that suck! I still paid half though.

[hotgurl]

well my famliy wasn't normal but it seems similar to a lot of people at on the shack. Do you think we're here because we f-up our realtionships because of our f-uped childhood?

 

anywho. My mom had me after 5 years of marriage my dad promptly left with another woman so I've never meet him. ( I never missed him of felt like I needed to know him)

 

she moves in with my grandparents we live there for a while. Very nice cozy, homecooked meals. even after all this time I still consider thier home my home. spent my summer there

 

We live pretty nicely and quietly my extended family is around my great grandmother watches me. i am unaware of problems.

 

She meets a guy who I hate but she loves and marries he is very nice. But by this time her drinking is picking up. We move to NH from chicago.

 

She is not thrilled can't find a nice job drinks more this is where the crap starts. i don't know if it just suddenly got worse or I just noticed it.

 

She drinks becomes mean name calling belittles her hubby and me. I fight back It esculates I run away and caught by the police get pregnant run away live in LA.

 

I come back she is still the same never hit me but treats me badly. i get a place of my own. She is still control guilt trip and very negative. She still treats her husband like crap. She be in a good mood and he walks in and she's like what the f do you want blah blah.

 

So not as bad as others still bad enough to have crushed my self esteem to nothing. She still calls me with her monthly how youa re f-ing up your life calls.

 

weirdly enough my BF's father was an alocohlic. He would just come home drunk and punch my BF in the face. One night he woke up to his dad strangeling him. the sent my BF to voarding school so his dad wouldn't kill him. the mom waited until the kids were in college to leave. The dad beat her too but never touch the younger sister.

[blind_otter]

well my famliy wasn't normal but it seems similar to a lot of people at on the shack. Do you think we're here because we f-up our realtionships because of our f-uped childhood?

 

Gold star for you, HG.

 

i think you're great.

[luvtoto]

well my famliy wasn't normal but it seems similar to a lot of people at on the shack. Do you think we're here because we f-up our realtionships because of our f-uped childhood?

That reminds me of a quote from a movie I've seen numerous times.

 

Movie was 'Hope Floats'.

 

"Childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to overcome."

[hotgurl]

Gold star for you, HG.

 

i think you're great.

 

thanks

[tinktronik]

thanks

You guys are making me cry (sob sob)

[blind_otter]

You guys are making me cry (sob sob)

 

Now it's time to hold hands and sing "One" by Metallica around the campfire.

 

[hotgurl]

Now it's time to hold hands and sing "One" by Metallica around the campfire.

 

 

OMG I lost my virginity to that song. Big Metallica freak.

 

darkeness imprisoning me all that I am all that I see

[a4a]

This thread is amazing indeed. It takes quite a bit of courage to deal with such matters...... hats off to all of you.

[Pyro]

She could have done both Riddler , I think that was the point.

 

You're right. I tend to read into things too much sometimes.

[Pyro]

f*** that s***. have you ever been homeless?

i didn't think so.

 

Don't be so quick to assume things B.O. I just have a very low tolerance for abuse of any sort, thats all.

[Sassy]

One favorite one I over heard recently from one was "your just like your father"...... geeze......that does wonders for a kid, alienates them against the other parent and destroys their self esteem. Neato things parents say to kids and ruin their life because of it.

 

It amazes me that being a parent is a right. You can so screw up so many generations by being a rotten parent.

 

ok done ranting........ back to humorville.

 

Man who would say such a thing a4a?

[tinktronik]

Man who would say such a thing a4a?

 

Oh ,only about half of all divorced women I've seen out with their kids. I've heard so many bitter women mad at their ex's get upset with their kid and say something like this.

[Sassy]

Oh ,only about half of all divorced women I've seen out with their kids. I've heard so many bitter women mad at their ex's get upset with their kid and say something like this.

 

Blind that is just awful someone would do that to their child!!

[RecordProducer]

Luvtoto, that's a very touching life story you told. I am glad you're happy now.

 

Tinktronik, you had the alternative care.

[tinktronik]

Luvtoto, that's a very touching life story you told. I am glad you're happy now.

 

Tinktronik, you had the alternative care.

 

Indeed.............

[tinktronik]

Blind that is just awful someone would do that to their child!!

 

blind .....tink ....same thing :lmao:

[luvtoto]

Luvtoto, that's a very touching life story you told. I am glad you're happy now.

Thanks RC! I appreciate that.

 

The shock of finding out so suddenly was too overwhelming. Took me a year to soak it all up.

 

Spent the next year re-living every bad memory in my head from my childhood. With this new information, I had to reprocess everything differently, so it made more sense.

 

Still have issues with low self esteem.. but, dang! can ya blame me? I am working on it.

 

I am so glad I found out the truth. THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE!

[a4a]

Blind that is just awful someone would do that to their child!!

 

 

I think many parents pull their kids into the middle of their fights, using the child as a pawn, and to take out their aggression on. I don't think that some parents are really even aware that they do this. Once the damage is done, it is carried with you for the rest of your life. Very sad to witness this.

[littlekitty]

I had a fairly normal upbringing compared to many of you. My mother had 2 children (2 girls) from a previous marriage, she divorced re-married my father and had me. I was one of twins; unfortunately my twin brother was still born.

 

My mum and dad divorced when I was one. It was very amicable; he could have seen me anytime he wanted. My father didn't see me again until I was about 5/6, when I begged my mum to get him to come and he did. It was awkward as you'd expect. I saw my father perhaps 5 times in my whole life. I'd get cards most years, although there was a 4 year period when he forgot me completely.

 

At 20, I nearly lost my life to double pneumonia. I was on life support for 5 days, in hospital for 6 weeks before I discharged myself.

 

After that my father made an effort to be in my life, I however, felt it was too little too late, and didn't overly respond.

 

I went off the rails a bit after that for a few years, made some mistakes and pushed my family away. Eventually I grew up and repaired the damage with my family. My mum and sisters and I are very close and loving now. I couldn't ask for a more supportive, loving family. I'm very lucky and reading these stories makes me realise that.

 

Three years ago my father died. I had no idea he was as ill as he was. I was at a music festival about to see the Chilli Peppers when I got the call. I'll never forget that I missed the Chilli's... stupid huh. So that was it, gone, my only chance to know my father taken away.

 

It took me a long year to start to manage to get my head round his death. I questioned my decision to push him out of my life, but I did what I felt was right for me at the time, and you can't change that. I have to accept that. But it's still fairly painful, and I'm kinda welling up now...

 

Tssskkk.... nothing compared to some of you. How strong some of you have had to be. Hugs.

[blind_otter]

blind .....tink ....same thing :lmao:

 

wheeeeee!

[agnf666]

Let see... I'm not married nor do I have any children but the things that has happened in my past I will always carry with me in the future...

 

My motherran off with my dad's best friend and left my dad to raise me and my brother. So, that was already hard. I was 8 yrs old when that happened. So, now that I'm 20 yrs old I realize how much I still resent my mother until this day for that. I still talk to her and see her every once in a while, but how can you show any love that basically left you. There was even a point in that she tried to kidnap me. I still don't like that either.

 

So, When I get to the point in my life were I get married and have kids I will never ever do what my mother did no matter what happens. What she did will always effect me...