tearful_soul22 Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 No matter what i do, no matter who i am with, i constantly have this feeling of sadness and deep regret for this one guy who's been with me through all my ups and downs in life:( but of whom i let go because of some personal issues that conflicted our relationship. I thought i would be happy and even started dating again after 6 months of the breakup but whatever i do HE seems to be always there in my heart and in my mind. I worry that i would end up in some mental institution someday because of this. I've known him for almost 2 years. He was not only my bf but my best friend too. He was everything that a woman could ever expect in a man..handsome, kind, loving, gentle, and most of all, very supportive. He was there for me when no one else would or even cared, and those 2 years were the best years of my life, ever. For some emotional reason or the other..i felt something lacking, and hence we split up for good. I thought other men would make me happy or even help me forget him, but it hasn't happen yet. Then i realize, i made the wrong decision to leave the one man who truly cared enough for me because of my stupidity and lack of appreciation for what he's given me, done for me, and helped me achieved all those years. I miss him greatly. I know i can never ever repay all the wonderful things he's done for me. I guess that's why perhaps i am in such bitter confusion and suffering now because of what i've done and i know i will pay for all these..for the rest of my life. He's my soulmate....and no tears are enough to justify what i've done to hurt him. Maybe this is one way God pusnishes those who forsaken what HE has given them..what do you guys think? Does anyone out there believe in soulmates, too? Or am i the only one who believe that they exist? Any reply would help and will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 I think it's statistically impossible to have one soulmate. Link to post Share on other sites
Dinnj1 Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 daaaayem Blind??? You just totally shot her down in flames... Well, tearful... I'm in your shoes... and have always called my 'one that got away' my one and only soulmate. So why ain't I with her??? Guess this wouldn't make her my soulmate huh? It's all very confusing, especially the word.. 'soulmate' Honestly, I don't believe there is such a thing. I think it's just the way our mind 'works' and 'thinks' when our hearts are broken and we long for the one person who for some reason, can't be with. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 See, people have this weird obsession with becoming ONE with someone, or that they are mystically connected. My BF thinks this. Personally I think it's flakey, but I love that big dope so I tolerate his doofiness. When you split up with someone, there's this danger of remembering only the good parts. Selective amnesia. Look, if you're worried about ending up in a mental institution, you seriously need to talk to someone to help you get over this. Because it's obvoiusly causing a lot of distress. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 daaaayem Blind??? You just totally shot her down in flames... that's what you gotta love about B O she gives it to you straight no sugar coating Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 that's what you gotta love about B O she gives it to you straight no sugar coating except when we're talking about wildberry skittles. taaaaaaaste the rainbooooooow. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 great now i am gonna want skittles.........i'm off to the vending machine Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 No - soulmates are not for real, I think it is a term that couples use to make themselves feel better about their relationship... I have a couple who are social friends and they have been married for 30 years, and refer to each other socially as each others' soulmates. Funny thing is, he cheats on her with any woman he can get his hands on, so is that REALLY a soulmate? I think not... Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 No matter what i do, no matter who i am with, i constantly have this feeling of sadness and deep regret for this one guy who's been with me through all my ups and downs in life:( but of whom i let go because of some personal issues that conflicted our relationship. I thought i would be happy and even started dating again after 6 months of the breakup but whatever i do HE seems to be always there in my heart and in my mind. I worry that i would end up in some mental institution someday because of this. I've known him for almost 2 years. He was not only my bf but my best friend too. He was everything that a woman could ever expect in a man..handsome, kind, loving, gentle, and most of all, very supportive. He was there for me when no one else would or even cared, and those 2 years were the best years of my life, ever. For some emotional reason or the other..i felt something lacking, and hence we split up for good. I thought other men would make me happy or even help me forget him, but it hasn't happen yet. Then i realize, i made the wrong decision to leave the one man who truly cared enough for me because of my stupidity and lack of appreciation for what he's given me, done for me, and helped me achieved all those years. I miss him greatly. I know i can never ever repay all the wonderful things he's done for me. I guess that's why perhaps i am in such bitter confusion and suffering now because of what i've done and i know i will pay for all these..for the rest of my life. He's my soulmate....and no tears are enough to justify what i've done to hurt him. Maybe this is one way God pusnishes those who forsaken what HE has given them..what do you guys think? Does anyone out there believe in soulmates, too? Or am i the only one who believe that they exist? Any reply would help and will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Well, I for one believe in soul mates, but in a round-about sort of way. I had a friend once who believed that when you met people you felt were "soul mates" it's because you all shared a piece of the same soul and it was part of your purpose in life to reconnect with these people. I sort of adopt this idea- I feel that you can have multiple soul mates, but none will fulfill you in the same way the other soul mates will, and no other "normal people" will fulfill you the way they do. So if you've found a person you feel is your soul mate, maybe he is, but he may not be the person you end up with romantically. I am also in the position where I feel I've lost a soul mate (my exbf), but at the same time I don't know if he is, or has ever been, my romantic soulmate, despite the love we shared for many years. Only time may tell me that. So I say, redefine "soul mate". It may not mean just one singular person. Maybe "soul friend" woul be more accurate and the nature of the relationship falls more to circumstance. I've known a few people who I have felt intense connections to over the years, but through circumstance we've not kept up our relationships, good or bad, romantic or platonic. P.S. As a side note, your entry was very touching and part of me hopes someday my ex will feel the same way about me. But that's the heart talking, not the head. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 Well, I for one believe in soul mates, but in a round-about sort of way. I had a friend once who believed that when you met people you felt were "soul mates" it's because you all shared a piece of the same soul and it was part of your purpose in life to reconnect with these people. I sort of adopt this idea- I feel that you can have multiple soul mates, but none will fulfill you in the same way the other soul mates will, and no other "normal people" will fulfill you the way they do. I feel like an evil person, sometimes. Anyways, this concept you are referring to is something in Buddhism and Hinduism (some sects) -- they refer to it as your "spiritual jana". -- your "spirit/soul family". These are individuals who are eternally tied to your spiritual energy, or karma. So they pop up continuously throughout your various incarnations. In some lives the same energy will be your mother, your murderer, your friend, and your enemy. Supposedly this enriches your spirit energy and helps you on the path towards enlightenment, but understanding that everyone will eventually be everything, from the annoying bitch you work next to, to the loving partner who can make you squirt...it's a meditation that increases the feeling of loving kindness and compassion. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted April 6, 2006 Share Posted April 6, 2006 Anyways, this concept you are referring to is something in Buddhism and Hinduism (some sects) -- they refer to it as your "spiritual jana". -- your "spirit/soul family". These are individuals who are eternally tied to your spiritual energy, or karma. So they pop up continuously throughout your various incarnations. In some lives the same energy will be your mother, your murderer, your friend, and your enemy. I love this concept and I will have to read up on it- thanks for pointing out the Buddhist/Hindu connection. I really feel there is something to this- especially when I think of at least one person I felt a very odd kinship with, but who has been one of the worst enemies I've ever had. Still, even through all our issues, there was this sense of reverberation with them. Like I loved and hated them at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tearful_soul22 Posted April 7, 2006 Author Share Posted April 7, 2006 Thank you so very much to all of you for your advices and suggestions. I really appreciate each one of them. Now i am very interested in reading about the Buddhist-Hindu connection. Maybe it will enlighten my perspective about life in general. And lastly..here's a bag of Skittles for everybody, LOL! Thank you again and Have a Nice Day... Link to post Share on other sites
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