RetroMan Posted April 9, 2006 Share Posted April 9, 2006 My ex (who I broke up with four months ago because she went to university) is coming back to work for a couple of weeks, where I work, and I was just wondering how it's going to play out. We broke up on good terms, just because she didn't have time to devote to me anymore and I couldn't afford to keep going to visit her, so we're still "friends"... ...However, I still fancy her loads and I'm sure she must still feel the same about me and I'm guessing that I'm not going to get through this next two weeks without suggesting sex at some point. Do you think that's a really bad idea? I know that it's a case of whether we can cope emotionally or not but I'm not with anyone else at the moment and, as far as she's told me, she isn't either. Also, I realise and have come to terms with the fact that we can't be together while she's away, but is there any harm in reliving a few 'happy memories' while she's back for a while? Anyone with past experience who have any thoughts on this? I thought it might make the sex feel a bit more exciting too, knowing that we're not "together" anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
Never Posted April 9, 2006 Share Posted April 9, 2006 I'm not really one to talk about anything like this, but don't you think after you have sex with her, you'll want to be with her more? I mean, unless it's not meaningful and you're just doing it for fun, I doubt you can just have sex then say goodbye to her - and be fine not being with her for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 9, 2006 Share Posted April 9, 2006 You're opening up an emotional powderkeg. Know that before you engage in this, and that when she leaves you may find yourself feeling worse about her absence than the first time you broke up. This is my experience with a similar situation. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted April 9, 2006 Share Posted April 9, 2006 I do have to say the sex is better and "higher" BUT since it is higher the fall is harder and faster. Just an FYI. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RetroMan Posted April 9, 2006 Author Share Posted April 9, 2006 To be honest she may not even say yes and, in fact, I'd say the odds are she will say no. She seems intent on the 'friends' thing but, to be honest, we don't really talk all that much anymore. Still friendly when we do but very infrequent. It's just that I still find myself fantasising about her at night, thinking of all the things that we used to do and the things I'd like to do again...and try to do even better. It just seems like a really exciting idea all over again and I'm not sure I could resist if the opportunity came up. I'm assuming that I'm far from the first to feel like this or fall into this trap. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted April 9, 2006 Share Posted April 9, 2006 I can't even conceive of it. It gives me chills. Link to post Share on other sites
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