Head...Hurt...Not...Un-der-stand!

[Poor Dumb Brute]

Can you help me out here? I've had my eye on a beautiful woman who works in my office complex for some time now. Recently, I finally worked up the nerve to approach her when I saw her alone in the cafeteria one day. She seemed extremely happy I made a move and I thought things went very

 

well. I mentioned that I had been admiring her for

 

some time and I was very glad I had finally met her.

 

She seemed quite pleased. When I saw her next she was

 

sitting with some female friends and just gave me a

 

curt impersonal wave when I greeted her. Next, I saw her alone again and she greeted me by name and we had another

 

very nice conversation. She seemed to be trying to

 

speak about topics that she thought would interest me. We both seemed to be really making an effort to show we were

 

interested and enjoying each other's company. It was a very pleasant conversation. Next time I saw her with her friends and once again, I got the curt wave. This is very confusing to me. It doesn't make any sense to me that she would be eager and pleased to speak to me when we are alone and give me the cold shoulder when others are present. If she doesn't like me, why is she so eager to talk when we're alone? If she does like me, wouldn't she be afraid of alienating me when she gives me a dismissive wave? What am I to make of these mixed signals? I really would like to get to know her better, but I don't want to go where I'm not wanted.

[Tony T]

Give me a break, slugger.

 

What do you want her to do, wave you over and introduce you as the dude she's been flirting with and trying to get to ask her out? Cut her some slack for Gawd's sake.

 

You can count on the fact that she's told all her lady friends about you and how the two of you have been chatting here and there in the complex. She's probably even told them your disclosure that you had been admiring her for some time. It would be a bit embarassing for her, at this point, to introduce you to them.

 

Once you get the nerve to ask her out and you know her better, then she would be very rude not to introduce you. But for now, she has every right to wave you on and choose not to introduce you to anyone.

 

So ask her out and get to know her. Then she will be obligated to introduce you to the whole complex.

[Poor Dumb Brute]

Thanks Tony, I was hoping to hear something like that!

 

A guy named Tony has GOT to know a lot about women!

 

Take care,

 

Poor Dumb Brute

Give me a break, slugger. What do you want her to do, wave you over and introduce you as the dude she's been flirting with and trying to get to ask her out? Cut her some slack for Gawd's sake. You can count on the fact that she's told all her lady friends about you and how the two of you have been chatting here and there in the complex. She's probably even told them your disclosure that you had been admiring her for some time. It would be a bit embarassing for her, at this point, to introduce you to them. Once you get the nerve to ask her out and you know her better, then she would be very rude not to introduce you. But for now, she has every right to wave you on and choose not to introduce you to anyone. So ask her out and get to know her. Then she will be obligated to introduce you to the whole complex.