binhquangdao Posted April 10, 2006 Share Posted April 10, 2006 I am currently in the US Navy in Japan. Recently my GF of 2 years which is in LA. Was waiting for me? She promised she was gonna wait for me. Then out of nowhere she wanted a break up. And she's a very honest girl. She tolded me she can't but help it look at other guys and wonder what if I could of been with him. She only had to waited 7 more months till I come home. SHe said she has to expierience this in order for us to be stronger in the future? I ask her? Do you know we gonna be together in the end if you go through with this? she tells me she doesn't gaurantee anything she says nothing in life is gaurantee but she see us in the future together having kids but she can't see it presently. She says she not giving false hope but not gonna say we gonna be together or not. She currently has a friend that's she says she just getting to know better not do anythign else. In the meantime she says she still loves me and feels the same way about me. I asked her why then you gotta leave me? she says this is somethign I gotta do for myself I have to explore I have this What IF? in my mind I wanna be truthful to you and I can't be truthful to you till I find this out. I ask her we don 'have to go though this. Are u gonna do anything wrong with him? She says I can't gaurantee I can, I can't say I will or won't but I still love you and we will decide this together but know this in the End we will be together but don 'take it as a gaurantee. I don' tknow myself anymore she says and don't know what happened to the litttle girl she' misses. I tolded I will be understand and be there but how you gonna pick him over me I've known you for 2 years and been with you for 2 years in this long distance relationship and been loyal and faithful to you. I love you and she says she's not making a choice between me and him if she had to it would be me. She just wanna know what this mix feeling she has for him. She says that she enjoy his company and he enjoys her company. I'm afriad of losing her but yet I wanna support her throughout this but what if she's not with me no more? She still wants me to call her and talk to her she even said in the end if it doesn't work out we can be friends. But it will hurt to much to be friends. Is she playing with my heart or is she doing somethin else somebody help me? Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 Kinda reminds me of the movie "Jarhead." I think her telling you she still loves you is a load of estrogen-laced bulls***. If she really loved you, she wouldn't be wanting to take all these guys for a test drive in her bedroom. Just forget about her & do what all you navy dudes do when you get back to the states. Get wasted & laid. Link to post Share on other sites
Elyssa Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 So waitaminute.... she actually expects you to agree to her dating people with the hope that you will one day be back together? I was in a LD relationship for several years (cross-oceanic like yours, so we didn't see eachother for many months) and never once did I even THINK about being or sleeping with somebody else. If she truly loved you, she wouldn't have these feelings for other people. She has her right to be happy, but so do you. Ditch her and find yourself a faithful girl that will love you as much as you love her. -E Link to post Share on other sites
tearful_soul22 Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 The ones that you love the most are usually the ones that hurt you the most. So, you are better off without her. She is not sincere and her explorations with other men is a sign that she does not feel the same way about you anymore, much less show you respect and courtesy. Forget her and move on......goodluck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author binhquangdao Posted April 11, 2006 Author Share Posted April 11, 2006 So I shouldn't wait she said about somethign this happens to everyone and they have to go through this????? Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 So I shouldn't wait she said about somethign this happens to everyone and they have to go through this????? Maybe she has to go through it but it doesn't mean you have to be around when she does. Link to post Share on other sites
tearful_soul22 Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 Happens to everyone??? Hmm...i dunno. I think it only happens when people allow IT to happen to them. Do you want to wait around and bear the pain of it all when it will indeed happen? Your choice! Good luck to you... Link to post Share on other sites
Vertex Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 As someone who has spent nearly 2 years in an LDR, I will say that looking around is a sign that they have given up the efforts needed to keep the LDR going. Her telling you she loves you is her safest move as it is not a direct rejection and allows you to be an option for her later if things don't work out for her in the present. Don't allow her to control your emotions and your happiness as she is obviously on a different page than you are now. If both people aren't willing to stay loyal in an LDR then it's already doomed because it takes two for it to work at the most basic level. I say, let her do her thing, since asking for her loyalty at this point will only drive her away because of her temptations to pursue other options. Go for someone who is more willing to make things work with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author binhquangdao Posted April 15, 2006 Author Share Posted April 15, 2006 Thanks I feel better how long do you think I will need to finally get over her.? Link to post Share on other sites
ddnnee Posted April 16, 2006 Share Posted April 16, 2006 if i were you, then i would ditch the -itch. And since you are in japan, find yourself a gaisha. I heard foreigners know how to pleasure man much better than fat american chicks. OK CHICKIES, BRING IT ON. I'm ready for your comments below. Link to post Share on other sites
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