Should I make him leave?

[butterfry]

Trying to deal with what my H did. Dont want to make a long story, he was involved with another woman, worked with her. Dont know if it got physical, he would never admit it anyway.

 

So, tells me he wanted a divorce, I find out about all this, now he wants to stay, but part of him wants to leave. Seperate, because he has hurt me so much. I tell him my self-esteem has taken a big hit, and its like he does not care. He keeps sexy pics on his computer, caught him w/ porn (its normanlly ok... but when I am home, why does he need it?) and he makes comments ALL the time about women, how big their tits are, how nice their ass is. COME ON, why? Knowing that I dont feel all that great b/c of what he has done, he does this! I have told him over and over it makes me feel like s***. No sorry, no I was insensitive, no nothing. "Maybe we should seperate for a while" is always his answer when I confront him.

 

Should I just say f*** it and make him leave? I am SO SICK of him saying this to me, that I finially feel like I want to take all his clothes and throw them in his car, and say beat it!

 

Then part of me says that I am overreacting, and it actually may push him out for good.

 

I dont know, any opinions would be great!

[Blind Illusion]

Sometimes the best way to react to a threat ("maybe I should leave for awhile") is to agree ("perhaps, yes"). See what happens.

 

Sometimes, the best way to get another person to change their ways is to change your own. (Or so I hear--I really haven't mastered this yet)

[My_Other_I]

Why is it that you want to stay with this jerk?

[Curmudgeon]

Call him on it and send him packing. he's banking on the fact that you don't mean what you say and won't take him up on his threats to leave.

 

You say, "and it actually may push him out for good" like that's a bad thing. He's emotionally abusing you and literally daring you to do anything about it.

 

You deserve and can do much better.