violet_21 Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 My boyfriend and I of almost 4 years broke up tonight. He is keeping the puppy we got together, and I am so heartbroken. I don't even know where to start puting my life back together. Please someone help me anyone that has gone through this, please give me some advice. I am just hurting so much Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 I'm sorry that you are hurting so much. This is the best thing in the long run. He wasn't treating you with the respect that you deserve. Only time will get you through this. Call up some girlfriends and arrange to go to dinner with them tonight. Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this! *hugs* Why did you guys break up? I don't really know what to say, other than I really do know and understand the feelings you are experiencing: I'm in the same boat. I can only imagine that after 4 years of dating someone, it can be so much harder to have a rupture with them, since there is just so much to remember. How are feeling? I know you said you feel heart-broken, but are you okay, okay? Have you talked to anyone about it? If not, you might want to talk to someone in person. Post some more about your situation and I'm sure you'll get plenty of advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author violet_21 Posted April 12, 2006 Author Share Posted April 12, 2006 Thanks for the replies. Unfortuneatly, i don't have any friends to call up to go out with While i was in the relationship, I didn't make any other friends, because it started right after i moved to a new place. he was married for the first 2 years so i guess having friends was too risky incase they knew his wife somehow.. or it got back to her. I know that sounds terrible I am just feeling so alone, and not knowing what to do with myself.. everytime i think of him i start crying and i am so tempted to go back to him even though i know i am not happy dating him either. It just feels so unfair.. I wish so much things had been different. My life is really tangled with his after 4 years, including that we work together.. I just feel like i am totally alone and im not sure how to pull myself through this. I don't even know how to make friends anymore, i am so scared i am going to be alone forever!!! Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 Awww honey. *hugs* It's perfectly natural to experience a whole host of bad feelings right now. Allow yourself to experience them. But keep reminding yourself that the feelings will pass. One day there will be hope again. And there are things you can do right now to start on this road. For a start, cut the contact. Take some time and space for yourself. Find things that comfort and cheer you up or are about self-improvement. The natural thing right now is to focus on him and the relationship (and of course, some of this is inevitable) but make a deliberate effort to focus now on you and your future. On "no contact" see for example: The Lost Guide to No Contact v4 And keep posting. Link to post Share on other sites
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