justagirliegirl Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Awwww BBQ that sucks! No moronic trick is worth harming yourself over. They just aren't good enough for you. From reading your posts on here I imagine you are a fun, bright, and sweet gal. Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Why hurt yourself over an a**hole? He isn't worth it. No one is worth killing yourself over. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I really hope you didn't take 30-40 pills.. No guy is worth hurting yourself over. You need to call 911 or call your grandma Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 God damn it, the guy turned out to be my friend's boyfriend. The a**h*** didn't tell me beforehand. As soon as he unsnapped my bra, she called his cell phone; I was like, is that Charlene's voice? He said yes; I alsked him if she was his girlfriend; he sort of admitted to it; and I called him all sorts of worthless scumbags and ran for it. I called Steve from Dunkin Donuts and he picked me up. He called me a worthless slut all the way home... I cried to him, explained my philosophy and told him all the stuff I said in that letter, told him how I felt... HE LAUGHED. HE LAUGHED! Goodbye, friends. . This is my last stand. I hope you enjoy my poetry. http://www.myspace.com/queenjannine It's all I've left to give. I will call Steve one last time and tell him I love him... because I do, no matter how he's hurt me. Then I can go gentle into that good night. I have nothing left. I am nothing. I love you all for trying to keep me alive this whole time. You are good, kindhearted people... blessings on you all. I love every last one of you. Even you, Alpha. But life is just too much pain. Please pray for me. I just swallowed a whole s***load of random prescription pills. They were my grandparents'. I must have downed 30-40 of them. So there's the rub. I think The Smiths would be appropriate to die to. So I'll play some. Oh man, I hope you were drunk when you wrote this. You remind me of me when I was drinking and getting f***ed up all the time. Downward spiral? Your choice. The last time I did one of those and phoned a friend, he told me I was a moron and I needed to get my life together and stop letting little setbacks make me collapse into a quivering heap. That's why I got on the AA-train. I hope everything is ok. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Why hurt yourself over an a**hole? He isn't worth it. No one is worth killing yourself over. I agree. I cannot believe that someone would be willing to just throw their life down the john over something like this. All over a lousy scummy guy. Insane. Link to post Share on other sites
kitkat826 Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Hey BBQ, why don't you post sometime soon so people know that your'e doing ok. Take care, I've been there and know that long term, drugs will only make it worse. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 IMO you should go for exclusivity from the beginning, unless you are just looking at this person as a no strings/FWB arrangement. Don't date someone who is dating others, and be exclusive by the time you exchange bodily fluids Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 What course of action right now would win me more points? I'm in a pickle. Don't sleep with him. Date him for 2-3 months first, let things progress from kissing to something a bit more steamy, but no sex. Then you'll find out how much he's into you, and he'll view you as someone who is more "serious". He'll probably ask *you* what you're waiting for, then you can say you're waiting to see if he wants to be serious & just see you. Edit - wrote that before I read the rest of the thread. Well, you messed up once by having sex with a player too early, thus getting confined to the "booty call" category. Not quite sure why you got so angry or felt the need to go off on the guy, he didn't promise you marriage after all. Then you "got back" at player #1 by going with player #2 the same night you met him. Here's a suggestion - in future how about you get to know a guy before letting him pork you? Don't jump in the sack at the drop of a hat. If you want commitment, then wait until you know a guy long enough to be sure that he does too. But you can't pursue casual sex and then act so surprised and offended when it turns out to be nothing more than, surprise surprise, casual sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlahBlahQueen Posted April 15, 2006 Author Share Posted April 15, 2006 the pills didn't work... still woozy... passing in and out of consciousness... this sucks Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted April 15, 2006 Share Posted April 15, 2006 Don't let the a**holes get to ya. There are plenty of good guys out there. You'll find one eventually. Hopefully you didn't screw your liver up. You should probably see a doctor. If not tonight or tomorrow, you should probably go sometime in the next week and get some blood work done. Good luck and stay safe. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 15, 2006 Share Posted April 15, 2006 I think when you start sleeping with someone that you are exclusive.. Where is the applause smiley? The thing is, you can sleep with someone casually and not care about closing up your other options. But if people are in a relationship, sleeping with anyone else is plain cheating. Call me conservative, but so many STDs are not a joke. Our feelings are not a joke. Our precious time (possibly wasting on someone who's a cheater) is not a joke. It took my husband 3 months to accept exclusivity (I explained it in more details here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=763610&postcount=12), but I forgave him, because we were 5,000 miles apart so he couldn't know for sure after spending 8 days with me in person. BBQ, I think it's not too clingy to desire to be the only one he sleeps with. How do you call it if you accept to be one of a few he screws? Isn't that clingy, as in cheat on me, hide things from me, do whatever you want, but don't leave me? I think any person with self-respect will not want to share dick with another woman. Link to post Share on other sites
justagirliegirl Posted April 15, 2006 Share Posted April 15, 2006 the others are right about not jumping into bed so fast if you want to be taken seriously. A guy is not going to go from fb to a serious relationship. Think about how many guys you have slept with in the past month. That is all good if fun and games are all you are looking for. Yes you are a hot girl and of course you can get laid and of course most every man will want to bang you but will he want to take you home to meet his mum? You say you have a fairly tight group of friends. Don't think they all don't talk about things. They probably see you as this fun, attractive but easy girl. You have to remember you are the prize. You won't be taken seriously unless you take yourself seriously and part of that is not giving up the goods on the first date. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted April 15, 2006 Share Posted April 15, 2006 Uhmmm so you got pissed at the guy you were seeing, went home with and slepped with a new guy, who ended up being your friend's bf (got on LS from his place) Then came home and tried to od?! WTF?!?!?!? I'm sorry, but it sounds like you need a good shrink, not a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 15, 2006 Share Posted April 15, 2006 BBQ, we've all made shameful mistakes in one way or another. Just be brave and get charge of yourself. As for Steve calling you a slut - hey, he didn't want to be exclusive with you so you had a right to sleep with other guys. He had the right too according to the concept of your dating, right? Why are you a slut, but not him? if he wanted you to sleep only with him, he should've suggested exclusivity. So no worries about your morality. You also have a right to have a one-night stand, whether some people think it's good or bad. Women can do whatever men can. My husband has no problem with my ONS in the past. However, when a guy is postponing the exclusivity, it doesn't really mean that they expect you to sleep with other guys. How my hubby explained it to me is: you're allowed to sleep with others, but the point of freedom is to have it, but not use it. In other words, when you realize after a certain period of time that you don't desire anyone else and didn't sleep with anyone else, you can become exclusive. A lot of double standard is hidden behind the non-exclusivity at the beginning. It basically understands dating other people and keeping your options open, but not being physical with anyone else. I still find it sleazy, but have to keep up with the new trends (hm, my husband is 18 years older than me so I wonder how he got to catch up the new trend so quickly!). Your impulsiveness won't get you too far. Calm down and act more mature if you want to be treated right. Link to post Share on other sites
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