Horrible ANGER problem...past couple of years...

[longlegzs80]

In the past, when I get angry, I bottle it up and it comes out in tears. Now when I get angry, I get to the point of yelling, screaming. At who, my ex who doesn't listen. There is a reason why him and I are still talking unfortunitly and that is because of business purposes.

 

I am angry at myself, not doing what I want to do which I don't know really what that is yet as far as my life goes and career. I'm LOST and need to be found. Why is all my anger comming out as screaming etc?

[blind_otter]

Bottled up anger always comes out, eventually, and you tend to channel it towards things you consider it "appropriate" to be angry at -- like your ex.

[Curmudgeon]

Anger is based in fear. I don't recommend it. It's wasted emotional energy better spent on more pleasant pursuits.

[brashgal]

Depression often manifests as anger. Take baby steps LL - make a list of things you think you might like to do and then take steps to try them.

[lindya]

In the past, when I get angry, I bottle it up and it comes out in tears. Now when I get angry, I get to the point of yelling, screaming. At who, my ex who doesn't listen. There is a reason why him and I are still talking unfortunitly and that is because of business purposes.

 

I am angry at myself, not doing what I want to do which I don't know really what that is yet as far as my life goes and career. I'm LOST and need to be found. Why is all my anger comming out as screaming etc?

 

What happens when you lose control and start screaming? How do other people react?

 

Take us through a typical scenario from start to finish, identifying

 

1. The things that trigger off the anger

2. The feelings you have during the outburst

3. How other people react to you during the outburst

4 Various actions/factors that result in the outburst subsiding

5. How you feel once it has subsided

6. How others react to you when it has subsided.

[PurpleFlowers]

I have anger issues too... have been in therapy about it for years... well, not just about the anger... about other things too.

 

When i first started therapy i had no emotion at all... just all over numb. Then I learned to be happy and sad - but anger never manifested itself in any way other than tears.

 

Now, I am learning to be angry and express that - but I have not figured out the healthy way to do it - so it just explodes out of me... years of suppressed rage!

 

Perhaps this is what you are learning als0 - to finally feel the feeling - but not sure how to express it.

 

Good luck- manageing anger and suppressed rage is the most difficlt thing I have ever done in my life... its been a slow going but worth it journey to overcome it!