Wife OM and the next step

[vikingruler]

I posted part of my story already but this a new chapter...

 

I have been seperated from my wife for 2 weeks. I moved out after I found out that my wife was going to see a guy that she was calling for the previous 3 weeks while he was out of town. I told her that I couldn't stay if she would see this guy. She said she wanted a speration to get things straight with herself and to be with our 3 daughter's. She saw the guy the next day. Its been a completely plutonic relationship. He has already said he would marry her after 3 weeks of talking - Last month they spent 3500 minutes on the cell phone together costing me 450$ extra due to all here overages. So I have been out of the house giving her space, but following up on her and seeing that she was seeing this OM and spending more time with him that our kids and really having her mom take care of them.. Even my daughters said mommy was talking to OM alot. I have jealously and control issue so it makes it hard to let go and not get involved. Last week I confronted the OM and her at a part at 10pm they were just walking - holding hands and talking. I told him he better not hurt her and all I want is her to be happy.

This monday she had the flu and I took care of her and the kids, she had gotten her dream job as a gymnastics coach and insisted that she had to go to work... so drove her there, took the kids to a nearby part and then hope. I asked her if we could talk this weekend about the next steps, she said okay... I made the mistake of staying around and trying to explain my love.

So yesterday she went to her new job that she loves - and when she got home she was there for about 20 minutes before she left to be with the OM. I found that she was was out at 10:30 walking and talking to him. I got really upset that she wasn't taking care of the kids and the stuff she said she would do. I am living in a small room at a friends house while she keeps living here life at our house with all the stuff she wants, horses big house, etc. All I want is to be family I have worked hard to provide for them and now I live in a closet. So I text OM's cell that I am going home to be with the kids and she can stay with him. By the time I got home she was there and fuming she called me every name in the book, threw a glass at me and even punched the wall hurting her knuckles. I confronted her that she is wanting her take and eating it too. She has left me hanging out for 2 weeks not knowing what is going on - and she has been out having a good time. So she said she didn't know what she wanted, she has feels for the OM but I asked here if she cared that he is sleeping with other people while he is professing his love to her, she said she didn't care because he is single..... That is when I knew she is really confused. So I totally pissed her off, she then threw it back at me and said she was quiting her dream job and will do nothing but take care of the kids.... which she was trying to trigger me, it did. Its her dream job and I want to support her so badly and I begged her not to quite, which see completely insisted she would.

So today I am here with no family and no seperation agreement and still not knowing what to do? I am going to wait and see if she actually goes to her new job today. I pray that she does - it makes her very happy.

I have so many things to say to her and she doesn't want to listen.

 

I love my kids I love my wife but she doesn't love me.