Guest Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 okay so just tonight i actually found an email from my dads old "friend" saying things like she has trust issues and that they have seen eachother 2 days ago. My dad works out of state a lot so i have been suspicious since early last sept. and confronted him about it but he lied everytime. There have been about 3 instinces this year when i found more evidence that he is doing something. So i talked to him and cried b/c i couldnt help it and he saw how much i was hurting but told me that something had happened but its over now. so i sorta dropped it bc after i told my mom, she didnt seem to do much about it but she doesnt deserve what hes doing to her. my parents have been married for almost 25 years and its not perfect but he has never done anything to hurt her or anything. I just dont think she wants to deal with this, but i cant stop worrying about it. If i tell him that i found this email, hes gonna be so upset and will undoubtubly lie again. In this email, i found out that my dad has been cheating or whatever for 10 YEARS!! i dont know what to do, i just cant believe im going through this and that my dad would be doing this to our family. I'm about to go to college and dont wanna have issues with this in my future. PLEASE HELP WITH ANY ADVICE. Link to post Share on other sites
la_ant Posted April 17, 2006 Share Posted April 17, 2006 Well, it's a tough situation. I don't know if you were snooping around your dad's email messages or if it's just an accident. One thing I realized over time is that my parents are human beings with their own shortcomings and that you have to protect yourself from them. Yes, I know it sounds weird, but we have to protect ourselves from our own parents. I would try not to worry about it too much. It is not your relationship and it is not your life. Your life is going to school, getting good grades, having a good job, having nice friends, etc... My dad tried and failed suicide when I was 17 and I burned bridges with him on that day... I know it's a tough decision but I am actually pround and happy with this decision. Now, I do not suggest that you run away or stop talking to any of them. But stay out of the mess, if one parent tries to sway you, resist. Just think about yourself first, and your parents second. Good luck Me Link to post Share on other sites
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