Sister who is cruel

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I wanted to post and get feedback regarding my sister.

The relationship that my sister and I have causes me so much sadness and anger. She is constantly pushing me away and rejecting me..This has gone on for years. She and her husband and daughter own a house with my mother ( it is very dysfunctional in my opinion )..My sister does not like me coming around the house to visit with my mother..I never go there anymore unless they have a holiday dinner or something and even then, I don't want to go. If I would stop by to see my Mom or something, my sister would say

things like " what the hell are you doing here"..or make comments to me like " I hope you aren't staying long"...this would just break my heart and many times I would lash out in anger because of this..It is bad enough that she says this to me but she would also say this to my son..who does not need to be exposed to that type of rejection..My sister is also very emotionally abusive to my mother..My sister has these anger outbursts and instills fear in those around her..My sister once said something to me that has stuck with me through the years..When they were moving into the house they currently live in with my mother..my sister was trying to control things ( as usual ) she told my mother that my mother could not put up her pictures ..etc on the wall without consulting my sister first..I stuck up for my mother and told my sister that my mother owns 1/2 of the house and she should be able to put up her pictures..My sister freaked..told me to " Get the F out" or she would call the cops and then told me " I hope you die a terrible death on the expressway on the way home"...I was crushed..My sister is so cruel.

Recently, I had surgery for endometriosis and for me this was one of the final straws...not once did my sister call to see how I was after ( I was home from work recovering for 6 weeks )..she did not visit me in the hospital, she did not send a card...NOTHING! I am hurt and extremely angry at her! Today is Easter and I decided not to go to our family dinner because I do not want to see her....I feel that I almost have to stay away from her now in order to protect myself from constantly being hurt..I also feel guilty because I will not be seeing the rest of my family today..my Mom..grandmother..etc. Then on the other hand..I have some anger with my mother for not sticking up for me and telling my sister that I should be allowed to go to the house and visit with out being told such terrible things and rejected..

 

I think what I am looking for is some feedback on how to deal with this...how do I heal from this rejection from my own sister? I am so sad today and angry..

 

Thanks!