confused _one Posted April 16, 2006 Share Posted April 16, 2006 Well my parents are divorse of 2 years and my mom doesnt parent anymore my brother is so messed up. Hes drinking and driving with no license and is abusive and calls me a stupid whore for no reason when I was doing laundry and keeping things clean for my family because its easter afterall. Hes pushed and shoved my mom before and hes just pretty messed up. My sister on the other hand has been with so many men its scary she doesnt know what she wants and sigh its just sad seeing her gets so used because she thinks its all she can get. She just ended an abusive relationship with her ex who tried to kill himself and told her a week before that he was going to if they broke up. Anyways he ended up in the hospital and yeah now have a restraining order. But thats just my siblings I told my mom today that my brother was drinking and driving without a license and illigally and now im not allowed to come to easter dinner because she got mad at me for telling her. I thought I was doing the right thing. Anyways how do I deal with my mom not parenting at all and gets mad when I try and do the right thing. Im moving to Alberta in 2 months to get away and live with my b.f who treats me amazing and just cant wait. I think il just take myself out of the equation. There has been so many other incidents worse than this way too many to name like the night where my sister had men come over and then they would try and get into my room and stuff and I caught one of them in my room once when I was sleeping cause he shook me awake scared the s*** outta me and my mom didnt do anything. She says she cant parent because my brother is out of control and he rages. I dont know what im supposed to do. I dont want my brother getting hurt from his stupid actions because his friend just died from drunk driving and was killed instantly yet he still decides to drink and drive. How do I deal with my messed up abusive family? Thanks for any help Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted April 16, 2006 Share Posted April 16, 2006 Is there an adult you trust and have a bond with -- your father, an aunt or uncle, grandparents, a school counselor, a teacher, a family physician or a religious leader? It sounds like your family, or what's left of it, needs a strong intervention. You're right to be concerned and perhaps, if no one else is available you could call your local social services agency and get a referral or some help. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 20, 2006 Share Posted April 20, 2006 Wow, your family IS pretty messed up. I think taking yourself out of the equation is a good idea. Focus on yourself and what you want out of life. Set a positive example for your siblings. Get yourself situated in life and secure with good job skills and a healthy relationship. You can't change others. You can only change yourself. Hopefully by living a good life, you can inspire others to change. Link to post Share on other sites
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