what do i do

[Guest]

i have been seperated from my wife for 5 months when she told me she wanted a divorce she said she had feeling for someone at work and we tried to work things out. now on at different times i have caught her with her best friends husband.

 

once i was on my way to the country and seen her car behind a building his was out in the open the next time i was going past her house on my way home and seen her driving him back to his car at 3 am my children were at her house asleep while she drove her best friends husband to his car.

 

now here is the kicker the bestfriends husband is a cop and was working at the time i followed them to where the police car was parked and waited to talk to him we talked i asked him if they were seeing each other he said yes but it would end that night. now here is my question. he has a wife and kids who my wife and kids still visit should i tell his wife about my ex and and her husband or not i have known these people for 19 years during my seperation they sided with my wife again should i tell his wife and risk the wrath of a cop or just say nothing and let it go

[Bryanp]

Hello,

 

I am sorry for what you are going through. It is absolutely essential that you tell his wife. If the roles were reversed, wouldn't you have wanted to know?

Your wife has not only humiliated and disrespect you but she continues to humiliate and disrespect this woman who she claims to be friends with. Clearly your wife is getting some perverse thrill visiting this woman as friends and screwing her husband behind her back at the same time. The only way to end an affair is through exposure. I guarantee you that after you expose this affair this woman will no longer be supporting your wife over you.

 

I would not be that afraid of the cop. He was screwing your wife on duty. Let's see him get out of this one. Maybe a polygraph is in order. She left young children alone in the middle of the night. I am sure your attorney would love to know this. Again I would certainly tell his wife. Otherwise you sending him a clear message that there are no consequences for him screwing your wife behind your back and his wife's back. As far as he telling you the affair is over I would not believe anything he says. He has made you a fool and he continues to do so. In addition, by telling his wife you are also sending a message to your wife that there are consequences to her actions. Not saying anything to his wife proves to your wife that you are nothing more than a doormat willing to take all sorts of disrespect and humiliation without fighting back. I wish you luck.

[Jessie61]

i have been seperated from my wife for 5 months when she told me she wanted a divorce she said she had feeling for someone at work and we tried to work things out. now on at different times i have caught her with her best friends husband.

 

once i was on my way to the country and seen her car behind a building his was out in the open the next time i was going past her house on my way home and seen her driving him back to his car at 3 am my children were at her house asleep while she drove her best friends husband to his car.

 

now here is the kicker the bestfriends husband is a cop and was working at the time i followed them to where the police car was parked and waited to talk to him we talked i asked him if they were seeing each other he said yes but it would end that night. now here is my question. he has a wife and kids who my wife and kids still visit should i tell his wife about my ex and and her husband or not i have known these people for 19 years during my seperation they sided with my wife again should i tell his wife and risk the wrath of a cop or just say nothing and let it go

 

Is the "best friend's wife" (whose husband is having an affair with your ex-wife) a friend of yours, OR your ex-wife? If the former, yes do tell her if you feel that you should. If the latter, it will just look like revenge and sour grapes on your part. Is it?

[Blind Illusion]

Not saying anything to his wife proves to your wife that you are nothing more than a doormat willing to take all sorts of disrespect and humiliation without fighting back. I wish you luck.

 

He doesn't need to feel humiliated...it's not his behavior that is questionable nor is it a reflection on him. And he speaks of his ex-wife as an ex. Holding on to the anger by confronting spouses and the like just keeps him from moving on completely. Living well is truly the best revenge. Moving on doesn't show one is a doormat or that he accepts bad behavior as good. It simply shows that he no longer wants to be part of all this unhealthy drama.