Neuro Linguistic Programming

[Chinook]

Hi all

 

I'm struggling with 'no contact' at the moment and trying to see a way forward after a really painful break-up. I lost 10 years of my life to this person and although I know I have to go through the healing process... I was thinking about how I might see a way forward and how I might look at a different way of thinking to help me in this.

 

Does anyone have any experience with NLP...? Also, are there any online resources out there to help..? I'm in the UK and work full-time so getting to a practitioner is a little difficult right now (aside from trying to hold my life together anyways).

 

cheers

Chinook

[Qin]

http://www.nlpinfo.com/

 

From my experience of using NLP to "heal" past experience that haunts one person,

I find that NLP can help to lessen ones pain.

I hope the following NLP method helps. I am not an expert but I have used this method to help my friends to reduce their emotional pain.

 

 

1.

sit or lie down comfortably and close your eyes

Take 3 deep, slow breath and keep yourself calm and relax.

 

2.

imagine you are in the past where you are with the person. Recall events where you are with that person vividly. -try to recall what you have seen, heard or felt in the past events with that person vividly.

 

3.

Now pick a memorable scene of the memory with that person and imagine it vividly. and then Imagine suddenly you become a third person who is not involved, standing by the side observing the scene. you are now "dissociated" from the event and have less impact ffrom the memory.

 

4.

Next imagine the scene from colorful to become black and white. imagine the motion become slower and everything stand still in time. now imagine that as the 3rd person you are getting further away from the scene and that person.... until it beccomes a tiny dot far far away.

 

5.

imagine that the scene now becomes darker and darker until you cannot see anything.

 

6.

finally imagine and will that this scene iss locked into your memory and everything stays like that.

 

7.

wake up and come back to your reality. now the past eexperience has less impact in your life.

 

I really hope this helps. sorry I am just a guy who so happen applying NLP to help healing my friend. I am not an expert so fforgive me if this methodd doesnt work perfectly.

 

 

anyways,

I highly recommend you to do Love Saturation constantly. it is good to heal one's heart.

you can find it here :

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t86183/

 

Love

[Chinook]

Wow, thanks. I'll try that!

 

It sounds very like a method I'm already trying. When I was diagnosed with cancer, I sat there by myself with the Doc and even now, I can still recall the sombreness of his mood. But since using NLP, I reframed the memory and the book I have says to use various things like changing the lighting and voices, so I currently have the room darker but with him talking in a Mickey Mouse voice... so I end up squealing laughing now and what he's telling me isn't nearly so potent!