ridingthebulls Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 ok, if you husband is so terrible and all that, why not divorce him already? its obviously not healthy for you to stay with a man who is verbally abusing the kids!!! i dont understand why you are sticking with him. im guessing you left him by now. well i hope. of course the guys wife will go nuts. what did you think would happen? i guess you hoped her emotions were just swept under the carpet! lmao this whole post is really entertaining. like a soap opera or something. the OM loves you ? are you in that much denial? if he gave a damn, he wouldnt let you take the brunt of all the harassment in town, hed care more about your feelings, and would have chose you in newyears and left his wife! you need to wake up. such a distorted view of love. you are grasping onto straws and anything with a dick who is a tad bit better than your husband. your hubby is a drunk or abuser, of course any other loser will seem much better. Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 I just walked in from a very upsetting night, and I was surprised to see "my story" out in front again. I just want to thank you for saying that. You have no idea what it means to me. I've been thinking about you, MO. Hope it wasn't too bad a night. Take care of yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Sami_D Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 ok, if you husband is so terrible and all that, why not divorce him already? its obviously not healthy for you to stay with a man who is verbally abusing the kids!!! i dont understand why you are sticking with him. im guessing you left him by now. well i hope. of course the guys wife will go nuts. what did you think would happen? i guess you hoped her emotions were just swept under the carpet! lmao this whole post is really entertaining. like a soap opera or something. the OM loves you ? are you in that much denial? if he gave a damn, he wouldnt let you take the brunt of all the harassment in town, hed care more about your feelings, and would have chose you in newyears and left his wife! you need to wake up. such a distorted view of love. you are grasping onto straws and anything with a dick who is a tad bit better than your husband. your hubby is a drunk or abuser, of course any other loser will seem much better. If you're referring to MO... If you'd actually read her posts, you would know that she DID divorce him. The rest of your post hardly matters, since it doesn't seem that you're reading before commenting... Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 20, 2006 Author Share Posted May 20, 2006 Oh Gosh!! I had to laugh. Another poster who jumps in and throws comments about who hasn't bothered to get all the facts. I'm so over this!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 Oh Gosh!! I had to laugh. Another poster who jumps in and throws comments about who hasn't bothered to get all the facts. I'm so over this!! Movinon, I totally agree with you!!! Why bother posting if you're not going to bother reading what's relevant to it??? Anyway, MO, I hope that you are OK after your difficult night...? You know where we are if you need us, right??? :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 20, 2006 Author Share Posted May 20, 2006 Thanks Jess. I broke up with my boyfriend. So I'm movin on again!! Onward and upward, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted May 20, 2006 Share Posted May 20, 2006 No settling Movinon! No settling! We deserve the best life has to offer and we don't have time to waste on anything less! I am always in your corner! Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 yes, defiantly WA is right (as usual huh? :-) if we learned anything from our experiences it is what we want from the next relationship we have..the genuine article..no settling! movin good luck! we are here for ya :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 Thanks Jess. I broke up with my boyfriend. So I'm movin on again!! Onward and upward, right? Yes, onwards and upwards!!! Look at it this way, if we are not going to settle for something that isn't right for us with a MM, then I don't think we should we settle for something which isn't right, even if the guy is single! I mean, we are are not kids anymore, we know what we want and what we deserve; we also know that if we are not getting it, then we will be able to look after ourselves and still be OK, right??? I think that is flippin' brilliant!!! :bunny: (Just wish I could have known this in my youth, it could have eradicated loads of teenaged angst!!! ) Anyway, Movinon, you're with friends here, never forget that! Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 21, 2006 Author Share Posted May 21, 2006 Yes, onwards and upwards!!! Look at it this way, if we are not going to settle for something that isn't right for us with a MM, then I don't think we should we settle for something which isn't right, even if the guy is single! I mean, we are are not kids anymore, we know what we want and what we deserve; we also know that if we are not getting it, then we will be able to look after ourselves and still be OK, right??? I think that is flippin' brilliant!!! :bunny: (Just wish I could have known this in my youth, it could have eradicated loads of teenaged angst!!! ) Anyway, Movinon, you're with friends here, never forget that! That's exactly right! If I learned one thing (of which I learned many), I know what I'm looking for. Now I just have to find out if he exists!! lol! Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 That's exactly right! If I learned one thing (of which I learned many), I know what I'm looking for. Now I just have to find out if he exists!! lol! I think SHE exists lol! yep I am getting pretty convinced there isn't a guy out there that will be all that I want..I'm seriously thinking of playing for the other team...but damn I love men Link to post Share on other sites
Blind Illusion Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 I think SHE exists lol! yep I am getting pretty convinced there isn't a guy out there that will be all that I want..I'm seriously thinking of playing for the other team...but damn I love men I think that's what happens. We found these MM that we thought were like our closest girlfriends are and that's part of the draw too. For me, anyhow. Maybe "thought" is the key word here. Maybe all these great qualities only exist in women. (as horribly sexist as that sounds but it's the morning, I am not a morning person and can hardly be held accountable for anything I say during the wee hours of the day.) Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 I think that's what happens. We found these MM that we thought were like our closest girlfriends are and that's part of the draw too. For me, anyhow. Maybe "thought" is the key word here. Maybe all these great qualities only exist in women. (as horribly sexist as that sounds but it's the morning, I am not a morning person and can hardly be held accountable for anything I say during the wee hours of the day.) or gay men..Grrr I know loads of gay men and a few I really wish were straight because they really are perfect..I don't want to sound sexist either but I'll be damned if I've met the perfect man yet. I love my MM and he is perfect for me in many ways...but how do I really know? I don't..thats a real kick in the pants. Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 21, 2006 Author Share Posted May 21, 2006 Yes its early and I've had a total of about 4 hours sleep because I've had my 1 1/2 yr old and 7 week old granddaughters overnight. I'm about ready to call out the troops (their parents) to come rescue me!! Yeah, I'd go straight for the women too but they just happen to be lacking one major thing!! lol! Truth to tell, I've got my eye back on someone and I've never had the nerve to tell him which is why I went to online dating. We'll just see if I can actually gets up the hutzpa (sp?)!! :bunny: But I'm not in any rush. And I'm not gonna go back to online dating right now either. I figure I'd like to rediscover some things about myself and be free for awhile. Its very weird. I'm not in a rush to date, but I would like to date. What's wrong with me!! lol! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 Truth to tell, I've got my eye back on someone and I've never had the nerve to tell him which is why I went to online dating. We'll just see if I can actually gets up the hutzpa (sp?)!! :bunny: But I'm not in any rush. And I'm not gonna go back to online dating right now either. I figure I'd like to rediscover some things about myself and be free for awhile. Its very weird. I'm not in a rush to date, but I would like to date. What's wrong with me!! lol! MO, When I am confused I ALWAYS blame the hormones.... "Ahhh, the good old hormones...." Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 There is nothing wrong with your wanting to date Movinon. You are going on with your life and you are ready for the rest of your life to start. You know now what you want and don't want in a relationship and that is a very good thing. I feel exactly like you. I am ready for the rest of my life to start. And, you know what, ladies? I don't know....maybe it is a streak of intense optimism...but I believe that for US, the best is yet to come!!! Hope I can spread some of this optimism to those of you who are kinda down today.... Link to post Share on other sites
silentjuliet Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 Wow, thanks for sharing your story. It's just that that took a lot for you to post something like this and especially, with the intent to show others the aftermath of an affair. You should be proud that you righted your wrongs. The wife being violent really sounded horrible. Is it any wonder he cheated on her? That might be mean of me to say...judgemental...but such violence! One day your heart will heal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 21, 2006 Author Share Posted May 21, 2006 Wow, thanks for sharing your story. It's just that that took a lot for you to post something like this and especially, with the intent to show others the aftermath of an affair. You should be proud that you righted your wrongs. The wife being violent really sounded horrible. Is it any wonder he cheated on her? That might be mean of me to say...judgemental...but such violence! One day your heart will heal. Well here's the kicker. When his W came to my house and punched me in the face and I told him about it, he chuckled. He said "Well what did you expect? You slept with her H." Now how dumb was I to continue the A for 7 years when I got a response from him like that! Duh! Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 And, you know what, ladies? I don't know....maybe it is a streak of intense optimism...but I believe that for US, the best is yet to come!!! Walking, D'you know something? That is EXACTLY how I feel! I know that I shouldn't, especially with "D Day" looming on the horizon, but I do... No matter WHAT happens, I still think that the best is yet to come. For me, but also for you girls! Perhaps it is "lunatic optimism" (Or "the good old hormones"???? ), but it is honestly how I feel... Now I am off for an evening stroll in beautiful weather.... See ya all later!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 21, 2006 Author Share Posted May 21, 2006 Jess and WA, I totally agree with you. I'm just too damn tired right now to think about anything else but laying in the sun and taking a nap!! lol! They finally just took the kids. And the day is half over with nothing done. Oh well. I'm too tired to care!! lolololol Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 I don't know guys... This optimism is infectious. I feel great. More liberated than I have felt in months. WE ARE GOING TO MAKE IT! I see the light at the end of the tunnel. I can't wait to see what my future holds and I can't wait to find out what YOUR future holds. Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 I've been listening to a cd I haven't heard in awhile and this song came on. I haven't heard it in so long But it sums up how I am feeling about MM. Its melancholy and unless you haven't seen your MMs face or heard his voice in 17 months like I haven't, even though he's minutes away, it might not ring true for you. But when its been that long, these words fill my mind. Not to be a downer. Just wanted to share what may come along for you after so long. Do I Know You (Toby Keith) Do I know you Have we ever met You've got a smile I could never forget Perhaps you've mistaken me for someone you know What's that you say Am I losin' my mind That's just one of the things That I left behind You must be talkin' about something That happened a long time ago If I forgot to remember your name and your face Excuse me forgetting I must have misplaced That part of my life that left all the scars From the back of my mind, to the bottom of my heart There's a look in your eyes I've seen before It's all too familiar but I can't be sure I've got a memory somewhere That looks a lot like you I'm still confused With these feelings inside I want to reach out and hold you and I wanna hide Tell me did I really love you Or are you someone that I never knew If I forgot to remember your name and your face Excuse me forgetting I must have misplaced That part of my life that left all the scars From the back of my mind, to the bottom of my heart If I forgot to remember your name and your face Excuse me forgetting I must have misplaced That part of my life that left all the scars From the back of my mind, to the bottom of my heart Link to post Share on other sites
enoughisenough Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Just because you were abused, doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it to someone else. Sleeping with another married woman's husband is abusive towards her. I hope from now on you are choosing men who are not taken and also that in the future you decide to get a divorce first! As for the "harassment" in which we only get one side of the story- we dont know if you partook in any other harassment yourself towards the wife- if there was an issue, you can file a restraining order etc. But did you? Oh and the times she physically assaulted you-- exactly how many times did you have her arrested? did she ever have you arrested?.. ... if the answer is no the both first questions above, maybe you are blowing things out of proportion and have some involvement in this whole mess as well. I'm so tired of posts like this that are so damn one-sided ("im so innocent" )that pretty much provide a tailored story showing vindication and validation for their cheating etc and never one other bad thing do they claim to have done.. Link to post Share on other sites
Jessie61 Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 I'm so tired of posts like this that are so damn one-sided ("im so innocent" )that pretty much provide a tailored story showing vindication and validation for their cheating etc and never one other bad thing do they claim to have done.. With all due respect, this is after all a forum for OW/OMs.... What would you expect to read here except OW/OMs supporting and advising each other? Link to post Share on other sites
Author movinon05 Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 Just because you were abused, doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it to someone else. Sleeping with another married woman's husband is abusive towards her. I hope from now on you are choosing men who are not taken and also that in the future you decide to get a divorce first! As for the "harassment" in which we only get one side of the story- we dont know if you partook in any other harassment yourself towards the wife- if there was an issue, you can file a restraining order etc. But did you? Oh and the times she physically assaulted you-- exactly how many times did you have her arrested? did she ever have you arrested?.. ... if the answer is no the both first questions above, maybe you are blowing things out of proportion and have some involvement in this whole mess as well. I'm so tired of posts like this that are so damn one-sided ("im so innocent" )that pretty much provide a tailored story showing vindication and validation for their cheating etc and never one other bad thing do they claim to have done.. And I could easily get tired of posts like yours when you don't know all the facts. I am not abusive nor did I harrass her. You probably didn't read all the posts. Which is indicative of these types of responses. I didn't act all "innocent". I stated facts. Period. It is what it is. Link to post Share on other sites
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