Survey: How many LDR 300 miles and over from each other did not last or did last?

[mending_heart]

I've known my ex for 6 years before we dated. It kind of happened all of a sudden when we started to go out.

 

Not long after starting to date she left to continue her studies. Our relationship lasted a little less than 3 months. In that time I did visit her once.

 

All I can say is it really depends on the person. My ex and I had a great relationship going (we both loved each other). But she changed one day and said she wasnt ready for a relationship. Things ended from there.

 

I guess its natural to face hardships in a relationship and not being physically there to offer support can be frusterating. Some people need to have their gf/bf around in order to cope with stress.

 

If you're both commited, things should work out so long as you both have arranged some way of seeing each other between the long months you are a apart. I do not believe a LDR can last unless you've both managed to arrange some time to see each other once in a while...talking on the phone, email, etc. can only do so much.

 

So in summary, its about commitment as people have already said so here! Sometimes history isnt enough. I still love my ex, but I have to let her go to find out what she wants in life.

[YellowLioness]

I have seen two instances of highschool sweethearts make it through college, then get married.

 

The rest of us poor saps who fell in "love" in highschool and tried to make it through college fell appart.

 

For the most part...unless someone is married or at least engaged before being distanced from their loved one, it doesn't work well.

 

That is just what I have seen...but definately more end up in heart ache then not.

[Guest]

I've actually just begun a LDR with someone that lives in Lincoln, Nebraska while I live in ATL, GA. I know that LDRs are hard to keep going because human contact is almost a must to further any level of a relationship, but when you connect with someone that is honest and genuine and wants everything that you want you should do everything in your power to keep it progressing. Even if it means making a sacrifice by leaving everything familiar to you. Even though we are over 1000 miles away from each other. As long as the prospect of one day meeting not too far in future remains, I don't find it hard to keep going. but hey, I'll let you know how it goes in a couple of months from now...

 

 

 

 

I'm just curious of something. Want to know how many online LDR's did not last or did last that the people lived 300 miles and over from each other?

 

Did your 300 mile and over online LDR last? If it did, how long have you been together and are you still bf/gf, engaged, or married to them?

 

If your 300 mile and over online LDR did not last? How long were you together and when you broke it off where you in the bf/gf stage or engaged? If you don't mind saying, can you give a brief description on why you broke up? (Example: one of you cheated, distance was too much to handle, didn't seem to be going anywhere, one of you found someone closer, etc.?)

 

My personal opinion over all the stuff I have heard about online LDR's are that when you are so many miles away, there are more online LDR's that fail than last. What is your personal opinion on the fact whether online LDR's 300 miles and over actually last or not?

[Alexandra-Girl]

LDR do last. It takes TRUST and COMMUNICATION. My good friend and her boyfriend have been together for four years. She was in Canada doing school and her partner (not married) is in Hong Kong. They spoke every day and shared pictures. Their relationship is amazing. The spokemodel of LDR. Another is in Mongolia and her Husband is in Greece - 11 years. Another is in New Jersey and her partner (not married) is in Canada (4 years). These are the three LDR's that I know of, which makes LDR 100% successful.

 

They take work, but so do all other relationships. You just have to pick and choose your battles more carefully.

 

Good Luck

Alexandra.

[DotMasta]

Got a pseudo LDR working quite nicely, with pseudo i mean I've had 3x10 weeks in England, each spaced about a month apart. University terms you see, but I live in Vienna, Austria, and have had a great relationship with my gf so far. Met in July 05, spent September - December in England, then one month in Vienna, January - March England, then Vienna one month, etc. You get the idea. Fortunately this is my last term, so from June onwards i'll be in Vienna... until i move to Sydney early 2007 that is.

 

I find the change of having distance and being together makes us not only enjoy the time we have together a lot more, but sometimes you just want to have a break and be alone. However I doubt a LDR with takes 6 months or more of seperation is beneficial to either partner. At the moment I would break it off if a 6 month+ seperation was comin' up.

 

Oh by the way I'm 21 and she's 32, I find older women to be less neurotic and crazy within reasonable bounds

 

Whatever floats your boat I'd say, LDR's are a matter of preference.

 

"I'm seriously"

DotMasta

[mental_traveller]

My longest relationship (4 years) was long-distance. Eventually broke up but nothing to do with distance issues.

[Guest]

LDR do last. It takes TRUST and COMMUNICATION. My good friend and her boyfriend have been together for four years. She was in Canada doing school and her partner (not married) is in Hong Kong. They spoke every day and shared pictures. Their relationship is amazing. The spokemodel of LDR. Another is in Mongolia and her Husband is in Greece - 11 years. Another is in New Jersey and her partner (not married) is in Canada (4 years). These are the three LDR's that I know of, which makes LDR 100% successful.

 

They take work, but so do all other relationships. You just have to pick and choose your battles more carefully.

 

Good Luck

Alexandra.

I agree with you...they take a tremendous amount of work. My boyfriend and i have been in LDR for 3 yrs...we've seen each other three times, we talk everyday on the phone and sometimes online. I live in Canada and he lives in Trinidad and Tobago. Its heartbreaking to be away from him and sometimes I doubt that the relationship is worth the pain. In addition it does take a financial toll on me, with all the expenses of international calling charges and trips.But every time I see him simle,hug him or kiss him when we are togther in reality I know that its worth all the pain that I go trhough when we're apart. We've got 2 more years to go until we are togther for good...if things go as planned..I just cant wait to spend my life with him