Going crazy

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Ok, I pushed this guy away after 6 months by being too clingy and emotional. I know this and i know i need to work on my self esteem and other issues. Anyway we broke up about a month ago and a few days after we broke up i found out i was preg and he was on vacation for two weeks. I was stressing out bad mainly because i have baby in still in diapers and know how hard it is to be a single parent. Anyway after few days later i lost the baby. It was probably best...although very sad situation. When he came back into town he stopped by to see me before he even went to his house and stayed for a few hours...everything seemed fine between us. I think i was extra emotional and angry over the next few weeks and he told me i was texing to much and please stop texing him. he said he needed his space but he wasnt mad at me. But i got madder and madder that he did not seem to be there for me. So i quit texing and calling after a few days he began texing and i didnt respond for about a week..and then text him if u want to talk to me just call me please. So he did and asked me to come by because he would be leaving for to weeks for army reserve training...so i went over everything seemed fine. He left the next morning and that night he text me and told him i was going out that night and could not talk right then he seemed upset. The next night he called ...the first thing he said was...so did you have fun last night ..i said yes so kept asking ?s.

 

we got in a fight and i got off the phone i told him to just leave me alone. So he quickly text me I love you and miss you which he does when i tell him to go away!! It is like his ace that he pulls out!! Anyway for the next week we fought by texting..i was really bitter that he did not come home when he found out i was preg and having difficulties after all he was just visiting friends partying. he says nothing makes me happy so it doesnt matter what he does anyway..i think he is right..i really want to change that about me . Here is the main thing i am hung up on him saying lets be friends and see where things go..I cant handle that..i told him to get in or out. Was that wrong????????? so he came over saturday night late. we both go do the Easter thing with our families..mine was over early so called him and asked if he wanted us to stop his parents house(b/c he did before so badly when i was not talking to him) and he said i m getting ready to leave....i know that was a lie..later that day we got disconnect on the phone and he did not call back for a couple days..which was today i did not answer so he called and called ..his last massage said okay what did i do now?? You disappeared for 3 days!!!!

 

So he calls and calls(funny how he finds time to called when i wont take his calls-it is a game i think) until i answer, see him then he dissappears again for a few days...i just want him to get in or out. I just want him to get in really!! i cant live with lets just see how it go between us. So what NC or what... until when or what?? He will start ringing again in the morning i am sure!!! How should i respond. Please help!!

 

thanks jenn

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Ok, I pushed this guy away after 6 months by being too clingy and emotional. I know this and i know i need to work on my self esteem and other issues. Anyway we broke up about a month ago and a few days after we broke up i found out i was preg and he was on vacation for two weeks. I was stressing out bad mainly because i have baby in still in diapers and know how hard it is to be a single parent. Anyway after few days later i lost the baby. It was probably best...although very sad situation. When he came back into town he stopped by to see me before he even went to his house and stayed for a few hours...everything seemed fine between us. I think i was extra emotional and angry over the next few weeks and he told me i was texing to much and please stop texing him. he said he needed his space but he wasnt mad at me. But i got madder and madder that he did not seem to be there for me. So i quit texing and calling after a few days he began texing and i didnt respond for about a week..and then text him if u want to talk to me just call me please. So he did and asked me to come by because he would be leaving for to weeks for army reserve training...so i went over everything seemed fine. He left the next morning and that night he text me and told him i was going out that night and could not talk right then he seemed upset. The next night he called ...the first thing he said was...so did you have fun last night ..i said yes so kept asking ?s.

 

we got in a fight and i got off the phone i told him to just leave me alone. So he quickly text me I love you and miss you which he does when i tell him to go away!! It is like his ace that he pulls out!! Anyway for the next week we fought by texting..i was really bitter that he did not come home when he found out i was preg and having difficulties after all he was just visiting friends partying. he says nothing makes me happy so it doesnt matter what he does anyway..i think he is right..i really want to change that about me . Here is the main thing i am hung up on him saying lets be friends and see where things go..I cant handle that..i told him to get in or out. Was that wrong????????? so he came over saturday night late. we both go do the Easter thing with our families..mine was over early so called him and asked if he wanted us to stop his parents house(b/c he did before so badly when i was not talking to him) and he said i m getting ready to leave....i know that was a lie..later that day we got disconnect on the phone and he did not call back for a couple days..which was today i did not answer so he called and called ..his last massage said okay what did i do now?? You disappeared for 3 days!!!!

 

So he calls and calls(funny how he finds time to called when i wont take his calls-it is a game i think) until i answer, see him then he dissappears again for a few days...i just want him to get in or out. I just want him to get in really!! i cant live with lets just see how it go between us. So what NC or what... until when or what?? He will start ringing again in the morning i am sure!!! How should i respond. Please help!!

 

thanks jenn

okay anyone!!!!!!!