Frustrated

[sungrl]

I have been with my b/f for over year. Although I really don't think this has anything to do with cheating, it has just been bothering me more lately. I see him about three days a week and we don't always go out in order to save money so we just hang out at his place. He is the type of person that if he is just sitting on the couch not really doing much--he will fall asleep. If we are out at a bar or club--he is fine. But it seems like it has gotten worse. In the beginning he used to be able to atleast stay up with me til 1 am and then he would drive me home and drive back to his place which is out of the way and then go home and then to work. Now i stay over so he can get more sleep. By the time we even get back to his place it is almost 9( because of my job). The thing is I am feeling frustrated that by the time we eat or I eat and then watch tv-he is falling in and out of sleep. He does not have such a demanding job and gets out at about 4:30 or 5. It makes me wonder--what is he doing with his time that he is so tired. It gets me annoyed as well. It makes me think -is he getting this bored that he can't even stay up with me past 11 pm. We don't even talk to much when there. Another thing that really made me mad was we would kiss and maybe make out for a little bit and he would of course be awake for that. A little bit after stopping-in and out of sleep again. He was expecting for me to sleep with him as well and all he is doing is falling in and out of sleep. Of course he would be up for that part but right after--back to sleep. It makes me feel like i am almost being used. I really don't know if i am overreacting but it makes me feel like the effort is decreasing. Of course I have mentioned but he says he can't help it. But--on saturdays he can pick me up straight from work or around 6 because I do not work and we would have a little more time together and he can go to sleep early if he wanted but he never mentions doing that. Its usually around 10 pm that he picks me up and it makes me wonder why is he happy with that--why wouldn't he want to see me earlier if he could. Thanks for reading.

[RecordProducer]

You need to discuss this with him. I can see how he can be tired in the evenings, he is not falling asleep on purpose, but there's no reason for him to pick you up at 10 pm on the weekends. What does he do between 6 and 10 pm?

 

Try to suggest a nice walk outside and a drink somewhere instead of sitting at home.