me I want him to propose but I cannot drop hints fast enough

[black_cat1985]

I want him to propose but I cannot get it through to him that I want it. We have been together 6 months and I have known him 4 years crushed on him three of the four years. Can anyone anyone tell me how to either get him to propose or should I jsut screw tradition and propose my self? I talked to him about it last night and he did not say one word just a grunt now and then. And this boy has had my heart since the day I laid my eyes on him...Fate crossed our paths again when I wound up homeless with another guy...I dumped him for my love now...and It hurts to be apart from him....I dunno about him.

[Guest]

And this boy has had my heart since the day I laid my eyes on him...Fate crossed our paths again when I wound up homeless with another guy...I dumped him for my love now...and It hurts to be apart from him....I dunno about him.

 

What?!!?!?!

 

As far as getting him to propose... do you really want to be that girl? It's only been 6 months, give the guy some time. Marriage is a HUGE commitment, not something either of you should take lightly... if the relationship is right, he'll probably take the plunge.

Proposing yourself? What if he says no? So you've talked about marriage and are getting grunts for responses... not good!

[Mirage222]

You should not propose to him, tradition is something you will want ... believe me.

 

regardless of crushes and knowing him before ... you only been together for 6 months. And be sure to set yourself up for heartache too. Don't think because you want to marry him that he wants to marry you.. I just made this mistake of 2+ with my guy all along thinkning he wants marriage (he is in late 30's) ... come to find out he does not want to get married. Just prepare yourself. I know your head and heart is going crazy right now but sit back and enjoy the ride for now.. get to know this long lost love again.

[JadeStar]

He should propose because he wants to not becasue you have made him feel like he has too. If you do and he does propose, there might be some resentment there from him, which will make things worse. Hopefully he will in time.

 

 

 

 

Jade

[prfrogkisser]

I have to agree with everyones response. The only reason he doesnt want to propose to you is because he is choosing, everyday, not to do so. If he loves you and wants you to be his forever he will propose. You cant make someone do something they dont want you. Every womans dream is that the man who we love opens his heart and soul to us by being 100% sure they want to marry us. By putting pressure on him he might do it just because you asked and inthe end this wont work.

 

Be patient. Dont rush. Enjoy being in love:love:

 

 

(((Im Tired of Kissing Frogs WHERE IS MY DAMN PRINCE!!!)))

At least i have no warts;)

[Art_Critic]

My ex Wife proposed to me .. I loved it..

 

I think if you want to get married and you think he will say yes then ASK HIM..

 

Screw tradition..

[whichwayisup]

I'm mirroring A_C's words...If you want to marry him, then ask him! Why not? Make it romantic, get down on one knee - Do the whole shh-bang!

[crazy_grl]

May I ask how old you both are?

 

I agree with what's been said. You two have only been together 6 months. Having a crush on a guy for 3 years isn't the same as having had a relationship for 3 years. Also, pressuring or dropping hints about marriage probably isn't going to get him to do. Even if it does, wouldn't you rather he asked you on his own than because he felt like he had to do it.

 

Why are you in such a rush to get married?

[aleatoryd]

Why not just take it slow and naturally and enjoy the whole thing? I have to question your motivation for wanting to get married so quickly. I realise that marriage = the big significant step up in a relationship but it shouldn't be forced. Maybe you should hint that you consider it, like drop hints where you'd like to have a honeymoon that sort of thing. It's difficult because to some guys having the girl propose would take away "their masculinity" or it's "breaking traditions" but a lot of people it's becoming more natural as men surrender part of the percieved mans role. I agree with the other posters just be wary you don't rush or force him or he will resent that.

[tikigods]

umm 6 months is a super short time in most relationships to even GET to that point yet, why not just enjoy the relationship for what it is, instead of FORCING him to do something that he doesn't want to do right now?

 

I have to ask as well how old are you two?

[glittergurl]

Why not just wait? He obviously doesn't sound ready, and you definitely don't want to push your partner into something he's not ready for yet. Be patient, and enjoy your relationship. It will grow. Six months sounds wayyyy too early for me anyway.

[black_cat1985]

Ok our ages?? I am a 21 and he is 20...We went to High School together and I think I am goin to pull back b/c I think I freaked him out when I talked about marriage last week...Thanks for all the help guys