wing Posted October 4, 2001 Share Posted October 4, 2001 ever wonder what lies ahead beyond the crest in the road? I do. Ever have doubts about what's in store for you just around the next corner? i often do. The journey of life is fraught with the unexpected and more often than not, these surprises tend to throw our best laid plans into upheaval. I'm not sure if that's such a bad thing, however, for i'm certain that the vast majority of you will agree that life is at its worst when it is lived in complet and utter predictablity I often find myself choosing the less direct route to a destination nowadays. I might take longer to get there, and yes, following the path less travelled in not pragmatic, but it is oh so filled with discovered and learning. For those who see life as a tunnel, where there is only the one singular path, i say open your eyes, and see for yourself that life is in fact an open plain, that there is no path to begin with Take the long way home, folks, be prepared for the unexpected. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 4, 2001 Share Posted October 4, 2001 There are many people who pay psychics and clairvoyants lots of money to predict the future for them. But it's not the future they really want, it's mostly hope. Hope is something you get from yourself, not from a fortune teller. If you have time, taking the Road Less Travelled is certainly the way to go. Most people these days live in a very fast paced environment and need a measure of predictability to keep them from having anxiety attacks. It's great to live life in one's own way, taking one's own path, but you have to make time for that and learn to love and embrace the unknown. We get there soon enough anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
wing Posted October 4, 2001 Share Posted October 4, 2001 i have been going out with my bf for almost 7 yrs now and we have been engaging in long distance relationship for last 18 months. He is about 4 yrs younger than I am. I often feel insecure about him. People keep telling me that i should be careful cuz my BF is a very good-looking, educated, smart and somewhat slick around everybody. I hate the fact that girls like him so much. My parents told me that he can be all good now but in 5 yrs time, when he has the money, he is going to dump me. Personally, i do feel that the gap between us is getting bigger an bigger. What should i do? I am getting too old to screw things up now! Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted October 4, 2001 Share Posted October 4, 2001 If you really feel that way about your boyfriend, that is, insecure and inadequate, then you ought to break up with him. If you don't feel confident in his love for you (or your worthiness of being loved by him) then the relationship isn't going to weather time and distance. It's especially hard to keep a long distance relationship going, and if you don't feel secure in it you will be in a constant state of anxiety -- which isn't good for any number of reasons, for you personally or for the growth of your relationship. That doesn't mean you SHOULD feel that way. You say your bf is handsome and smart and accomplished -- what about you? Do you feel like you're living up to your potential? If not maybe you ought to take a page from your bf's book and cultivate your talents so that you will feel confident and secure in your own right -- which will translate into being confident in a relationship, no matter how accomplished your partner is. It's not fair to write off your bf without talking to him, don't you think? Have you asked him about what he sees in the future for the two of you? It doesn't sound like you're communicating much about it, rather it sounds like you're trying to read his mind and predict the future. It would be much better to talk about it directly with him. See what he has to say. If it doesn't sound like what you want for your future, then you have your answer right there. But it seems like you'd want to discuss it with him rather than just assume that he doesn't value you and is preparing to drop you when the time is right for him. If he's not willing to discuss it, well, that's probably not a good sign. You'll never know though until you try. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 5, 2001 Share Posted October 5, 2001 Go with your gut. This guy doesn't sound like a keeper, in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Clueless Posted October 5, 2001 Share Posted October 5, 2001 Go with your gut. This guy doesn't sound like a keeper, in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
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