He said he still loves me and wants me

[Twink]

He left on easter night, without any word. Talked just yesterday, I went over there to give him a few things. He told me why he left he was anger and irratated all the time. I asked him why, he could not answer. He told me he has not been talking to me because it is making it easier on him to get over me because he still loves me.

 

Well by the end of the converstation, he hugged me tight, told me see you around, last words I love you.

 

What does that mean.

 

So later on, my car breaks down, I have no ones number because I had to get a new cell, only know my mom's and sister's and his. No one would answer left him a message to help please texted him. NO response. Later that night, I wake up to a message stating sorry I missed your call I was out of town, I hope you made it home ok I will call you later.

 

He is not returning my texts.

 

So what does it mean when they say, I want you and the last word is I love you. Then they call and say they will call you later.

 

Any advice. I love this man so much, trying the no contact thing is so hard. I am getting mixed feelings from him

 

Thanks

[KittenMoon]

I think you've said something you should stop and re-read, pay attention to the bolded areas:

 

He told me he has not been talking to me because it is making it easier on him to get over me because he still loves me.

 

 

Do the "No Contact" thing. If he really does miss you and love you, he'll realize it being away from you. Until then, there's nothing you'll be able to do by pursuing him except push him further away. I feel you pain sweetie. My ex became angry and frustrated all the time (well around me anyways, everyone else he was a bit too cheerful with) before we split.

 

So I know it sucks to hear this, but you just gotta stop speaking with him, contacting him, etc. Keep posting here, it's good (cheap) therapy.

[Twink]

Thanks, this is just really hard, I have a little boy who loves him too. He told me to tell my son, he will see him later this week. I am not going to tell my son that.

 

No contact hard to do, we hang out at the same places, have mutual friends, I don't know how to handle this, should I not go out anymore to those places?

[KittenMoon]

Keep doing what you want to do- heck, get to those mutual places and friends first and show him he's not going to knock you out of your life!

 

I'm sorry about your son- the kids get the short end of the stick in these sort of things.

[Twink]

So what does it mean we he says, I don't need you I want you I want you in my future I will see you around I love you too!

[KittenMoon]

It means he wants you on a string, and he wants to be able to mess around too. Best of both worlds.

[Spitkicker]

It means he wants you on a string, and he wants to be able to mess around too. Best of both worlds.

 

yeah... it took me 4 months to realize this...

 

It's not cool when the one you thought reallly loved you, does this to you.

 

If only there was some way to get them to see that this is wrong, but you can't so the best thing to do is initiate NC and move on. It'll be tough.

[Twink]

Yeah hardest thing I have ever done. I called last night, I texted a couple of times. I never even seen it coming.

 

I just keep crying hoping he is going to call, hoping he his going to come to the door. I don't understand if someone loves you and wants you why can't they work through the good and the bad. Things were never really bad at all, not abusive at all. Just had our moments with each other.

 

No contact, I know I am going to see him around. What do I do then, do I talk to him? I love this man so much, I would be willing to listen and work on what ever was making him irratated.

 

I just want him home! So does my son! My son tells me he is coming back! Which just kills me!